Do You Think You Should Get Married At 16 If You Had A Baby With That Person?

Answer 1

well from personal experience im still with my babys dad its going on 8 yrs and we got together when i was 16 i already have 4 kids but i tied my tubes i wanted kids and i didnt want to have different dads for my kids and my babys dad is great we have our ups and downs but i work through them we had to grow up together we were together though our teen yrs and together now in our 20's sometimes its going to seem like the world is going to end but i tuck by him with the good and the bad and now my life is str8 oo yea and as far as the married part u dont have to get married just because u got kids well i havent well do whats in your heart and if u need anything dont be afraid to email me

Answer 2

I am not going to preach to you I am just going to give you some facts. Think about these things.
1. How old is the other person?
2. Who is going to support you and the baby?
3. If you get married and it does not work what then?
4. Do you have to get married now or can it wait for a while to see how things go?
5. How does your family feel?

I ask these because I was in a similar experience and now 11 years later I am married to a different man and my daughters biological father is no where to be found. I am not saying this will happen to you but you have got to think about these things. You dont want to live with an infant without being able to support yourself or a child. Just think if you were independant on your own then you would have the security of knowing that if it doesnt work out you can do it on your own. Just wait and see how things go. let me know what you decide.

Answer 3

NO! At 16, you are way too young for marriage. You are both still growing and changing as people. You can still be a family and not be married. Having a baby is not a good reason to get married. Your life is complicated enough right now. If this is the right person for you, theyll still be there when you're a little older.

Answer 4

I have so many opinions on this matter. I wouldn't recommend marriage at such a young age but then again I wouldn't have recommended having a baby at such a young age either. You really need to sit down with yourself and ask where you intend for your life to go. Having a child is the single most important decision to make in someone's life and I am willing to bet that it wasn't planned. I hope that for your child's sake you maintain a relationship with the other parent but marriage is not something to take lightly. Don't fool yourself into thinking that just because you share a child that life is going to be beautiful and wonderful. Everything changes when you get married and a person has to be equipped to handle those changes. It doesn't come easy and it takes a lot of work and if you aren't dedicated to it than it will never work. At the age of 16, I imagine you haven't known the child's other parent long enough to really know them. Stick together, raise the child on a friendly basis, have your arguments and disagreements and see if you can work through them first before you commit yourself to each other. I don't believe in raising a child as a single parent but my belief in marriage is so much stronger than that. Don't live together but stay close. Don't date but be friends. Think always of your child and put him/her first in your lives. Go to school and get your diploma. Go to college and get a degree. If your still together than it was meant to be. If it doesn't work out, make sure that the both of you continue a relationship with that ever precious child. You will be a better person for it.

Answer 5

not necessarily. You've already had to grow up too fast by having a baby, no need to throw the pressure of a marriage on top of it.

Finish high school, get on with your life. If you still love him and he still loves you and you are still together when you are adults - then by all means get married. Don't do it because of the baby. Do it because you love each other and you want to spend the rest of your life together. And the rest of your life doens't have to start now!! Do it when you are ready. Marriage is a serious committment and a financial contract - so don't jump into it for the wrong reasons.

Answer 6

No, because "two wrongs don't make a right". The chances of a marriage lasting when at least one partner is 16 is very slim. However, you should get financial help from the baby's father. Take responsibility for your baby and realize you need to finish your education and get a good job in order to provide for him or her. And remember to ALWAYS use birth control in the future in order to not let yourself get pregnant until you're older and in a committed mature relationship.

Answer 7

Only if you both love each other. My guy and I dated for a year before we had sex. We got preggy the first time, even though we used a condom (he was 18, I was 17). We married and have been married over 8 years now. But we married for love first and baby second, not the other way around. If I hadn't loved him, I'd have never given him my virginity (he was a virgin too). I believe in God, so I believe our baby was sent to show me that since I chose him for sex, my love was valid and he was worth hanging on to. And that it would work. We got married my senior year and I had our child over Christmas break. While I was finishing school, he was going through military basic training. So it hasn't always been easy, but it did all work out.
If you both love each other and are committed to making it work, marry him. But it won't be easy. You'll have to both learn how to talk about problems instead of yelling. And to be careful with money. And to talk to each other about your marriage issues instead of someone else. Marry for love, not just because of baby.

Answer 8

Please NO! You're are way too young! There is so much to experience before you have the responsibly of children and a marriage. Enjoy you life as a single young mother.

I'm 32 and I've been married for 8 years and it's still not easy.

Answer 9

No, and not at 22 either (voice of experience). Pregnancy and marriage should come in reverse order, but they are not necessarily in the same Venn Diagram. As you have discovered, you don't have to be married to produce a child ... just incautious. And pregnancy is never a sufficient reason to marry.

Answer 10

I'm 33 and don't feel that getting married has anything to do with childbirth. Sorry, but a child is not going to make a marriage work.