i used to go with this boy rodney but he smoke and he loves me for me not for my body! so what should i do! his smoking really gets on my nervers ! but i asked him i asked him to quit smoking and would he do it or me? and he said yea n e thing for my baby! so we are trying to find out whats the best thing to do! but he asked can we go back together cuz he miss me!but his smoking so he trying but nothin works but he still smoke but not as much so should i go back with him?
2006-06-15 06:01:57 · 18 answers · asked by cnellzlilmama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him that you'll only get back together with him if he is seriously trying to quit (on the patch or chewing the gum).
2006-06-15 06:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by blndmnd1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really like or love him, you will be patient. Smoking is a really bad addiction, and if he is trying to stop, well support him. Just don't allow him to smoke around you, and make sure you have some kind of breath mints or gum on hand. I have seriously dated guys who smoked and I didn't sweat it because I meet them like that and I can accept the fact that you can't change any one you have to let that happen naturally. Everyone has a bad habit, think about that. It will be okay, go get your man and stop it already.
2006-06-15 06:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a very dear friend who smokes and simply does not want to quit, but I don't smoke and work to avoid second-hand inhaling. Therefore, we agreed on the following:
1) I never visither because she's free to do whatever she wants to in her home.
2) When she visits me, she will not spoke inside my home.
3) She leaves "smoke-free" clothes at my place to wear when she visits.
I believe that if both of you care about each other and want to please one another, you can find ways to work it out. But if he's adamant about his RIGHT to smoke, I think you should let him go. Clearly for him, smoking is more important than the relationship.
2006-06-15 06:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by mcjordansr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say to him straight out.. 'it's either me, or your smoking'
My sister and her boyfriend had the same problem and he was always like 'yea, yea, i'll stop' but he didnt.. so she left him and stayed with a friend.. he stopped smoking and she moved back in with him, and he hasnt smoked since. If he really loves you, he will stop smoking, and if he doesn't.. obviously in his eyes, smoking is more important to him than you. But anyway, goodluck!
2006-06-15 06:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by #.::PenguiN::.# 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok lets asume is tobacco wht you are talking about,well you are right not only smoke is bad for you but second hand smoke is worst...... but you care for this guy and if he cares for you until he quits he should at least be considered and dont do it around you.... and if you really care for him be patience; ok i used to smoke like crazy and everybody use to tell me that was bad smokers know this our bodies let us know that....with the caughing and the fatigue but let me tell you something quitting the habit of smoking is far worst than quitting a habit of drugs is horrible...wht i did was made up my mind a pick a date and i bouhght the nicoderm patches that was two and a half years ago.... and im smoke free my husband use to hate my smoking but he was there for me. he was patience and he was rewarded with my quiting, if this is the only thing this guy do wrong...my advice to you is be patience and suggest for him to quit constanly but without nagging maybe for chritsmas you can buy him a box of those patches and you guys can pick a day to quit.
good luck.
2006-06-15 06:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend wants to quit, but can't because he has had the habit for along time. Seems you have asked him once already, but he just doesn't. Stick with your guns and heart and go with someone else. There are alto of other fish in the sea.
2006-06-15 06:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by gandalfh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh, I just quit myself after ten years of smoking. If he really wants to do it, he will. If he doesn't quit, he doesn't care enough to give it a real shot, and he's just leading you on.
2006-06-15 06:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Robert B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him that much go back with him. He is showing you that he really care by trying to quit. It just takes time. If he is worth it and it seem like he is go back to him. You obviously really care for him, why stay away?
2006-06-15 06:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by hcso3900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he'll quit for you and you are happy with him; just do it. Let him know that him quitting is adding years of life to you two being together. Good luck! Follow your heart.
2006-06-15 06:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in doubt, DON'T! If he really loves you, he would have stopped a long time ago but he didn't, that simply means cigarettes are more important to him than you are. Think about it.
2006-06-15 06:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by trykindness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋