There is this guy who has recently become a good friend of mine .Although we haven't met,we chat 24/7 over the phone.We have got to know each other through a common friend.He seems to be very honest and nice.
But,the problem is that another friend of mine,who also happens to be his ex girlfriend,along with a few other friends of mine have warned me not to be friends with this guy anymore,as according to them he isn't safe company.They also tell me about an incident where this guy tried molesting a girl at a prom,when he was drunk.
They also told me that he is a major lier.I talked this out with the guy,and he told me that those were nothing but false rumours(he said this when he was drunk,and I've heard that people don't usually lie in such a condition),and he seemed to be quite convincing.
I seriously don't know what to do,I am continuously at war with myself,What should I do?
2006-06-15 05:18:58 · 27 answers · asked by satan's_angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That guy and I are just good friend,nothing more.
How do I keep away from him?I just don't want to be rude.
2006-06-15 05:29:29 · update #1
We are just good friends...
2006-06-15 05:37:43 · update #2
OK that is a tough one. Don't completely knock the guy out of your life, if you enjoy being with him. But don't let your guard down entirely either. Now that you have been warned by friends keep a look out for anything suspicious. Some people can act silly but be able to think properly when drunk. So don't hold that as your safety net. What you could do is keep it over the phone. That way you don't have to worry about what your friends say. If you DO really want to meet him then just keep your guard and if he tries anything you don't like or goes against what you want. Give him the boot. However don't put yourself in the position of being molested. Stay away from him when he's drunk. lol if he really respects you as he should he'll understand. Then if he checks out to your expectations. Just laugh it off and go about as normal. But be entirely sure before doing this. Some people are good liars. But then some you just have to trust and take the risk. What are your feelings? What are your instincts towards him?
2006-06-15 05:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy!!! Do you honestly think he would admit to those allegations? Be for real.... There are Thousands if not Millions of people still to this day sticking to a lie and currently are on Death Row due to evidence and witnesses statements placing them as a criminal in a crime.
I cut off a female friend of mines because she sided with a guy she had just met, when myself and a mutual friend tried to warn her about him touching up on another mutual friend. She confronted him and he said that we were telling lies and she chose to believe him. She was a fool. Real friends would never try to hurt you. They are there to have your back. If you have to question the loyalty of your friends because of what a man says, you might need to second guess if you are real friend to them.
You sound quite young..........if the finger keeps being pointed at the same person it doesn't take a rocket scientist, or even my advice, for you to figure out what the problem is.............. Am I right? If you need to ask that question then you already know the answer. LEAVE HIM ALONE!
2006-06-15 12:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, i am concern for you too... there is possibility that the friends r telling the truth. why they will lie to you purposely in group? is the guy that much popular? may be they are exaggerating a bit but there must be some truth in it. Find out from his old friends..those people who used to know him...dont trust a guy so easily as it may lead you to trouble. no point confronting him anymore as he had already told u what he has to say but he was drunk when he said those, why not you ask him the same thing again when he is sober? maybe you can tell some differance if he is making things up or not...I mean my bro is a perfect lier when he is drunk and you cant really assume that he was telling the truth...find out! Good luck...
2006-06-15 12:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by Nailhead_pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People certainly do lie when they're drunk! There are so very many cool guys out there that it would be a shame to get mixed up with one who might hurt you. The abusive ones are almost always quite charming, and convincing, by the way. They don't start out nasty, or everyone would run at first sight.
I'm not suggesting that he intends to hurt anyone, or become abusive, but past patterns of behavior are all others have to indicate what future behaviors are likely to be.
I'd say stay clear. Once you get sucked into that kind of relationship, it becomes more and more difficult to get out each day. It's that charm that sucks you in.
2006-06-15 12:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that goes like this... there is safety in counsel ... If these things were really true do you honestly believe this guy would admit to them. Try trusting the establish relationships with those who know you and love you. And if you are determine on dating this person, will you at least consider double dating, meeting in public places, group Bible Study, Church, anywhere that won't leave you isolated until you really get some history with this guy. If he's ok he won't complain about the safety measures.
2006-06-15 12:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Preacher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this could be a tough one. Sometimes your friends especially someone who used to date him could be just telling you stuff so you dont date him. I really couldnt see myself dating someone my best friend dated anyway. But thats beside the point. Also you never know, what they are saying could be true, but only time will tell. This guy could have been all that they say, and maybe he has changed. You can't judge everyone by their past. Sometimes you got to take chances or you'll miss out on something that could be golden.
2006-06-15 12:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by younggb77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember this they may be a little jealous of you. But they could also be telling you the truth about this guy so the best thing for you is not to get involved with this guy and wait a little while to find someone that could be right in front of you.
2006-06-15 12:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say listen to his ex gf, becuz there is always a good reason for the breakup, and she was hurt in that kind of way then you will be to, even though your just friends, you said he seems convincing, so dont trust him, follow your heart, if you have a feeling that he is bad news then he might be, always follow your heart and your mind. your heart will never fail you, but first find out from the girlfriend, if she is just telling you this to get back at him
2006-06-15 12:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lie like a rug when I'm drunk, so don't believe that you can't lie when your drunk.
My best advise is to proceed with caution. If you trust these other friends that say the guy is trouble, then believe them. You can still talk to the guy but don't trust him completely by being alone with him.
2006-06-15 12:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never trust people like it go with what friends say because even if you date him he might break with you but friends will always be there. you got to your take friends side or this guy have only talked to the phone for all i know he might lieing about everything . (i know because i was in the same problem) just listen to your friends they don't want you to get hurt because they know
2006-06-15 12:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by believerchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋