Is anyone married to a woman in the military who has had affairs?

Question

Please explain to me the dangers of being a civilian married to a military wife.....should I make her get out?.......can she just get out?

HELP I AM TIRED OF THIS......BUT I LOVE HER

Answer 1

I'm a military wife.I understand your question though,That kind of stuff goes on all the time with ,men and women.I know a women who's husband was in the Marines,got deployed to the Phillipines and brought her back HIV.There are so many men that do it sometimes they forget about the women doing it.Especially with men from their own units.I am also a civilian and I worry about my husband having affairs when he gets deployed,not so much at home but you never know.You just have to decide morally what you want to do about it and try to keep your chin up.There are all kinds of dangers though obviously with any affair.There are alot of guys getting divorce papers in Iraq,Korea,Afghanistan and Germany.People think that they can go on having affairs and not bat an eye about it.The women where we are stationed talk about how to spend the money while thier spouse is away,combat pay and what not,and they talk about how lonely they are.I guess that's why they have so many counseling places on post for those reasons.I am not one to cheat and I wouldn't,but if I knew my husband did,I don't think that I could handle that or especially if I knew there was a few.You should just tell her that you guys need to have a really long talk and after that talk if it seems that you still have doubts you can try counseling.I also know that in the military it is against the military laws to commit adultry and she could get into alot of trouble for that.Some people are afraid of that.So if you want to stay married,try to work on this and talk to your wife.I hope things work out for you.No she can't just get out unless her contract is up.And I don't get it,I know you must love her but love shouldn't hurt like that.

Answer 2

I'd say if she could then she is tremendously lonely, bored, watching for an interesting new lover, and unattracted to her husband. Her husband is quite often buried to his eyeballs in paintings so he ignores her, received to be great peers with the TV, does not praise her anymore, takes matters without any consideration that she does for the loved ones, placed on slightly weight, does not use that pleasant cologne he used to, misplaced that romantic method approximately him, under no circumstances takes her out, blah blah blah.... But the opposite married guy has one fault that yours does not and thats being a rat! Yes new intercourse is tempting however no longer valued at it. Good success

Answer 3

I feel sorry for you. I have been deployed MANY times and everytime I have deployed, alot of military wives cheat. I have seen several cases where military wives have been sent home from a deployment because they got pregnant...by someone who ISN'T their husband. Lose her quickly. Oh yeah, and she can't just "get out" cause you want her out.

Answer 4

military women can get just about any man they want there. they are surrounded by men as if working a construction site.

if you're willing to share her she might bring women home to you too.

otherwise you should just find someone who wants monogamy like you.