I have a 15 month old baby girl, and we just found out I am prego again. I am worried about my daughter having a hadr time adjusting to sharing mommy, or becoming jealous of the new baby when it arrives, any good tips to help with this?
2006-06-15 05:09:33 · 10 answers · asked by darkkitty9 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Try and teach her and help her understand that mommy is having a baby and that she has to be a big girl and help mommy. Yes you will experience some acting out from her to seek attention, but you have to make sure you spend time with her before baby comes and after baby comes and just keep on trying to explain that you love them both. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-06-15 05:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by shawny2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most toddlers will be jealous of a new baby at first. From the minute your new baby is born, make sure to involve your oldest. Buy her a doll so she can be a "mommy" too. My kids are 51 weeks apart and my oldest was a little jealous at first. We just kept her involved with everything that we would do to her little sister. When you're bathing the new baby, let your oldest take a washcloth and "wash" his/her arm. When your're feeding the new baby, let your oldest hold the bottle. Even something as simple as having your oldest get a diaper for you when you go to change the new baby will help. 1 big mistake that people make is not letting their older child around the baby due to fear that the baby could get hurt. NEVER tell your oldest not to touch or go near the baby. Don't worry so much about it. Once that little one is mobile, they will be playmates and best friends. That is the most wonderful think to see between your children
2006-06-15 13:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also had got pregnant again when my daughter was just 15 months old. Make sure that you include her as much as possible. Let her go to some of your apppointments and talk to her about the baby and the changes that mommy will be going through. Make sure that when baby comes that you and all the family remember her, bring gifts for her and let her know how special she is because she is a big sister!
2006-06-15 12:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so grateful that you asked this question!! My son is 13-months old, and I am 8 weeks pregnant with my second baby. I am very worried that he will be jealous...I am working with him to help him gain more independence (actually, I'm working on ME to give him more independence!) and he is doing pretty good. I have some issues letting him do things on his own, probably because I feel guilty working full time and coming home to an "independent toddler"...I just miss my baby!! He is a big boy now....even taking his dirty diapers to the garbage all by himself! I've got about 7 more months before he becomes a big brother, and he is just too little right now to understand what that means. But your little one is definitely old enough to know that there is going to be a change.
My hospital offeres classes for siblings-to-be...similar to the classes you take during pregnancy, but geared toward helping your children accept the new addition. Check in with your OB/Gyn and see if there are classes available for your little one! Good luck, and let me know how it turns out!! Congrats on the new addition!
2006-06-15 12:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by geminiparody4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your 15 month old be a part of the new babies life..When you are changing her ask your daughter to get you a diaper or whatever...Just let her be as much of the babys life as possible let her push her back and forth i the stroller anything that makes her feel she is a part of mommy and the new baby...Even before the baby gets here explain to your daughter that you have a baby inside and that is where she came from ...
2006-06-15 12:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can keep telling the 15 month old, that mommy's gonna have a baby. but that only helps so far. once your baby is here, you need to take care of the new baby, and then read, or love on your older child, do something with them, so they don't have the "mommy doesn't love me" thing going on. Also, you can have dad help taking turns to take care of them, so the older child feels that they are still wanted. good luck.
2006-06-15 12:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by a_precious_silver_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a short story when my aunty had here baby her 3 year old went in the bathroom and started crying because everybody wanted to see the new baby but when the baby is due try to have both of them around and try to play with the oldest while you play with the newborn or when ever the baby goes to sleep play with the 15 month and that will make her feel like she is not left out after all
2006-06-15 12:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by ANGEL BABY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Include her as much as possible in everything. also I purchased small gifts and wrapped them so when people brought gifts for the baby my little one didn't feel left out. It went well I ended up with twins and my little one loved being Mommy's little helper. i made it in to a game and look what a big girl you are now. She really blossomed and took to telling anyone who would listen. I am a big sister now and Mommy's helper. It was to cute. I wish you the best.
2006-06-15 12:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her a doll and teach her to mommy it and when the baby comes have her mimic what you are doing to the baby . like change clothes diapers feed it its bottle.
2006-06-15 12:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
choose an activitie that they will both like..it'll probaly be hard for her at first but she'll get used to it
2006-06-15 12:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by GirlVirgo♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋