just found out 7 days ago on my 31st birthday infact, that my partner of 9 years has been having an affair with my younger sister who we have brought up from the age of 11years. i love my partner very much and want to get over this but never want to speak to my sister again. Hellllllllllp
2006-06-15 05:04:16 · 13 answers · asked by bunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You don't!!! Unfortunately you've been betrayed by two people who should be the closest, most trustworthy people you know.
I would stay away from both of them for a long while....blood is thicker than water but she should have thought about that before she stabbed you in the back. Both your partner and sister are as much to blame and neither of them deserve your love for a long time until you can heal and forgive.
2006-06-15 05:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by willows 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have every right to feel angry and betrayed. I will be truthful with you, even though the truth can be painful sometimes. Your partner has shown you that he does not respect you, nor does he respect your sister. It sounds as though the affair has been going on for sometime, and that the two of them have been literally laughing at you behind your back. If this is the case, then he is telling you that he does not believe in fidelity and does not think you are worth being faithful to. He is just abusing you. Your sister's betrayal is even more of a blow, a sister should never ever do that. I would advise that she move out of your home to allow you to heal from the ordeal. You need to ask yourself, are you willing to continue being abused by him or do you need to get him out of your life completely. He has proved himself totally unworthy of you. And if you dig deeper, you may find that he has been fooling around elsewhere as well. You need to save yourself and keep your sanity at this point - your happiness comes first. If your sister shows no remorse and is unwilling to repent, then she will remain your sister but you do not have to live with her and put up with her nonsense. Honey, get them out of your home and spoil yourself with a holiday or something. You are too precious to waste your time on people who do not appreciate the wonderful person you are. God be with you.
2006-06-15 14:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Princess Lueji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your priorities all wrong. If you have been with this man for 9 years & you say you & he brought her up from the age of nine then she is practically a daughter to him. That makes this so much worse, it is almost incest. He is to blame here becasue she has had him living in the same house as the only male adult - supposedly someone to look up to.
Kick his sorry butt out. Give yourself cooling off time with your sister before you decide what to do.
2006-06-18 14:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lose the "partner". He's trash and it is pathetic that you want to "get over" the fact that he cheated on you with your own sister and you never want to speak to your sister again? It's sick. Sounds like you have no self respect if you're even contemplating staying with such a loser.
2006-06-22 04:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Vivreici 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant forgive for that, it is the worst possible thing they could do to hurt you, they didn't care about hurting you or they wouldn't of done it, its as simple as that. I love my sister and i would never never even think of such a thing, they are only sorry they got caught, throw them both out, they have taken the complete p*ss out of you. I hope you get over them, they dont deserve you. you could never trust either of them again.
2006-06-22 10:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by Emmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you can continue this relationship. I imagine that if you decide to stay with him then you are going to spend your life wondering who your partner is with, what's he doing etc. If it were me I wouldn't be able to trust him ever again. At the end of the day it's your decision and I wish you luck with it.
2006-06-15 13:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by little pink dynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bunny, it is sorry to say u but i am too confused to say how one man can do this as u have said i am man but i am ashmed after reading this to me having man i would like to tell u why donot u talk to ur sister what r u doing this or ask ur husband why and what happend to u why r u doing this to me u can ask him if i go to do this someone or ur younger brother will u like it.what will u feel if i do this to other man.u must ask to ur husband this this is ur right to know why he likes ur sister.now is he not interested to u?may be somehing is problem u have to ask them u will get answare be strong ask for ur right.ur friend nazy.u can contect me on.my email address is:nazy2ger@yahoo.co.in my name is divyang. i am indian i can not think much better then this.bye
2006-06-15 12:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by divyang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him but he isn't loving you in the same way! That s just wrong what he did. kick him out. Lick your cuts and then re- built your life you can do it. Good luck!
2006-06-15 14:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by ann B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, this man has crossed the line between family and your relationship.
Also you have been looking after this girl from when she was a child, and he still slept with her..................
Don't you think this is sick????
And speak to your sister, how do you know that it wasn't him that manipulated the situation???
Think about it.....................
2006-06-15 13:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by JennyPenny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How come he gets away with it and you're prepared to ditch your sister for good - don't understand that AT ALL!!
He was as responsible as her - more of he's older!
How could you ever trust him again?!?!
2006-06-15 12:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by Nefeco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋