Divorce is as simple as break-up, and break-up is as easy as 1-2-3.Gone are days men/women of honor.Why marry?

Answer 1

In today's society of instant, now, microwaveable, and disposable, I find myself asking the same question. Long gone are the days of arranged marriages, so one would think people would make better choices. Lust is often confused with love, and people have no regard nor respect for what the committment of marriage signifies nor for their partner.

Answer 2

There are many reasons. Here's one good one.

Once you're married, divorce is not as simple as breaking up. That's because you might have kids, or a house in your names, or combined bank accounts, or your car might be in your spouse's name. Your immediate family might love your spouse, and be angry with you for throwing the relationship away. Your mutual friends will have to choose between you, most likely. In other words, you have commitments (explicit and implicit) that will need to be dealt with.

That isn't to say you wouldn't have the same commitments with a long-term relationship (but no marriage); you probably would. So why is this a reason for getting married? Because marriage introduces additional legal impediments (and social expectations) that dating does not, and those commitments you've made as an unmarried couple are likely to be less painful to break, because you made them with an understanding that you weren't "married or anything", and so knew they were more likely to be broken.

So, in this instance, marriage serves as an impediment to breaking up -- it raises the stakes of a breakup and makes you more likely to try to work it out instead -- and as a bedrock of support -- it deepens the level of commitment you're willing to take on, and so enables you to reap the plethora of benefits that comes from having deep financial, emotional and social commitments.

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Here's a thought, though: if you believe that divorce is as simple as breaking up, and breaking up is as easy as 1-2-3, then you must not have any commitment whatsoever to the relationship you're in -- if you did, breaking up would not be as easy as 1-2-3.

I can say this, because I always held the same view as you're expressing here, until I finally met the woman I ultimately married. Until you *want* the deepest commitment possible, marriage holds no interest for you, *nor should it*. Once you realize you want the deepest commitment possible, however, marriage is one of many steps that will now be in your best interest.

Answer 3

I'm not sure you're correct on divorce being as simple as break-up! Take it from one who knows! A divorce is MUCH more complicated! Especially when children are involved! Certainly I've questioned the need for marriage also, and I'm sure there's logical reasons favoring it. But again, from one who's been soured on it due to a divorce, It's hard for me to find the arguement defending it. I think in our society today, we've come to really structure social programs to favor the single parents. This has evolved more into assistance for those who have failed in their marriage, and the social programs often times provide just enough of a safety net for people who are unhappy in the marriage. Enough to make them consider the divorce. Once upon a time you had very few babies born out of wedlock also! Now it seems to be much more common, with little repercussions for those same actions compared to in the past, when a woman was often frowned on. Our whole society has eroded before our very eyes. It's a much bigger puzzle to put back together than one might think.

Answer 4

I have to believe that marriage is wonderful and love is never ending. If I don't then all hope is gone for my future. I was in a 13 year marriage and a 1 year on going divorce... He is happy, in love and planning his 3rd marriage. I am still healing my soul! But the idea of true love keeps me moving forward. I think that after being hurt so deeply it will take time to heal, more than 1-2-3! But after happiness is found from within then love and marriage will be more that one ever dreamed... Good luck 2 U!

Answer 5

Marriage has lost it value because our society has chosen to make it a throw-away institution. Never used to be that way. This is a generation that has not known, for the most part, the example of a lifetime commitment in the marriage relationship.

We had a youth group last year. Out of the 15 teens that attended, I could only count two that had not come from a broken home.

Divorce only used to be granted if you could prove adultry or severe abuse. They change the law to enbrace the "irreconcilable differnces" of couples. In other words, if it's too hard to work it out, throw it away. As a result, the traditional family is rare to find, and our youth are in crisis because of the consequences of divorce.

Answer 6

You don't have to , It's a personal choice. A relationship is something that you have to put a 100% into. If you don't want to work and keep it alive and healthy then it's not for you. There are people out there yet that don't take everything for granted. As I see it these days its something new I have seen it myself and it really saddens me. A puppy,baby, new boyfriend, girlfriend etc....
great when they are in there infancy of the relationship. Then they get two yrs old or two yrs into it (if that far) and its not new and exciting and they get rid of it, ignore it, or just walk away. Its a scary epidemic. You make your life what you want. If your willing to work find a mate that is willing to work the long haul it can be a wonderful thing. Like my Grandma said it's a roller coaster you have your ups and downs. It comes down to dedication and honesty, respect, understanding , forgiveness.

Answer 7

Good question! This is what I REALLY need to understand. When I said my vows to my husband under GOD I took them seriously! He didn't! I didn't know he had no intention of keeping them. Your word should be your bond, or else what is your point. If you don't intend to or have the slightest thought that you aren't able to keep your vows "till death do you part". Save everyone involved a lot of pain and suffering (infidelity,divorce, children's suffering etc. )and DON"T SAY I DO!!

Answer 8

There is no real reason I suppose, just so meting that has been put in our heads for years. To live "right" in some peoples book you have to be married. If you love a person it does not take a piece of paper to tell you your there's. I will never get married, I love my boyfriend with all my heart and that's all that matters to us.

Answer 9

i'm sorry for all of your not straight forward cases. this can be a competent Bible verse for a cushty guy with a damaged heart: Isaiah 40:29-31 He supplies power to the weary and will improve the ability of the susceptible. Even youths boost drained and weary, and youthful adult men stumble and fall; yet those who desire in the Lord will renew their power; they're going to run and not boost weary, they're going to stroll and not faint.

Answer 10

I know that is a good question. People just are lazy these days and don't want to put the work in to make it work. They don't realize that the grass isn't always greener on the other side.