Many a time I end up doing some things just to please others, that keeps the people around me happy and makes me "popular", but the flip side- Why should I keep doing such things and in the process lose my own identity?
Folks, help me with your inputs! Thanks!
2006-06-15 04:35:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I found this quote a while ago in regards to co-dependency, and it really struck me as accurate. You might find some truth in it as well:
'When you surrender so much of your authentic self, you allow subtle erosion of your self-worth and spirit, and gradually "who you really are" almost completely disappears.'
2006-06-15 04:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by thecentrecannothold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets put it this way.
Who but a fool would you like to fritter away time-money-energy-self respect-ideology-beliefs-commitments-future-etc. just to gain
a temporary popularity?
Ever seen an actress or model closely? Saw the beautiful face,
smooth skin, twinkling eyes, great figure, nice clothes,white teeth
straight walk?
End of the day thay go home, have a bath, and gone are all the makeup and falsies, and they look so disgustingly differently from what they really are. Even if the devil were to see them at night he would run off to hell, children would be scarred,and the poor husband would think he has come to the wrong house.
That, dear friend,is the `popularity`you seek.
2006-06-15 04:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by bharat b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in helping your fellow man, volunteering and being helpful in general because I find these things to be rewarding. If you're doing things that compromise your morals or don't make you happy on some level, then stop. Popularity is temporary. Friendship is long-lasting. Your true friendships are not dependent on what you can do for the other person.
2006-06-15 04:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by c_cn2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! Don't give in what others want you to be, if you are not comfortable doing something that you need to do to be "popular" don't do it...and say so, if those people are going to act snobby if you don't do something that they don't like, find another group to hang around. And if you are talking about drugs, I never had a problem with saying no to someone, when it came to peer pressure, so if it is that, just say no, you'll be respected.
2006-06-15 04:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Goodbye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to help others if needed, but if you only helping others, to be popular, so that they will like you and allow you into their group. Is not always a good thing, while you'll have more friends, it will only because you are doing something for them. You should never have to do something for someone in order to be their friend. A friend is someone who you can count on, someone who will be there for you and accept you for who you are.
2006-06-15 04:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by Linds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, If people are your true friends they will like you not matter what.
If some leave you because you are popular with them any more then they are not true friends
We are all individuals , not cookie cutter human beings. It is nice to be unique.
Have fun and enjoy life doing what makes YOU happy
2006-06-15 04:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by mick987g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOthing is for free. When you please others you are getting something in return. It does not have to be money, vanity or anything that you can define quick. It can be on the long run. If you would not get anything back you would not persue it. It may not be abvious in many cases but there is no altruism. We all getting something all the time either materialy or spirtually.
2006-06-15 04:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by PicassoInActions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 19:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok do you like helping other people? Maybe it's in your nature but don't let people run you over. I don't know how you are going to lose your identity... it all depends on how you shape yourself in this process.
2006-06-15 04:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also wonder the same thing, I've decided that its time to do things for me, because thats the only way I will ever be happy. You have to please yourself, because you are number two, God is number one.
It is ok to help others, but no to the extreme of putting yourself last.
2006-06-15 04:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by unsurewhat2do 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋