A Desperate cry for help?

Question

I know everyone has probably lost someone that is close to them, my grandma died 2 years ago and since then my heart hasnt been able to heal. Please give me advice so i can feel better.

Answer 1

Dear Missy,

I am so sorry about your grandma passing. You must miss her very much. If you believe in God, then you should rejoice for your grandma, because she no longer feels any pain or sorrow. She has gone to her reward with her heavenly Father. Every time you remember her, think about her smiling down on you from a beautiful fluffy white cloud, watching you grow more beautiful every single day. You have your very own special "Angel" to watch out for you and protect you from harm.

I am sure she loved you very very much and she would not want you to be so sad or unhappy because she can not be with you.

Answer 2

Hun... I know how you feel.. I was close to my grandfather and grandmother too. My grandfather died in 1989, when I was 17. I almost failed out of school because I was so sad. I still miss him, and I just lost my grandmother last year. I know that it hurts.. it hurts more than anything... Feeling a loss, and sad is normal. Your not odd or different.. Everyone has their own way to heal, and the time varies as well.. I am sure if it's getting to much for you to handle, then try calling the 1800 numbers they have in the front of the telephone book to help with depression. They are hotlines set up specifically for people who need them.

Hugs hun.. You know.. try making a blog deticated to her.. or planting a tree in memory of her.. or even helping out at a nursing home is good too.. these things will never take the place of her, but that does help heal your heart..

Answer 3

Your Grandma would not want you to still be so sad after all this time. You should really talk to somebody close to you and let them know how you are feeling. Sometimes a minister or school counselor can help.

Think about some of the things you and your Grandma used to enjoy doing together (I used to crochet with mine and now I do that with my kids). Start doing some of these things and try to make new friends who have these same interests. Perhaps there is a group in your neighborhood with the same interests. Then you can tell them about how you used to do this with your Grandma and her memory will live on.

I takes time to heal. Good luck.

Answer 4

:( I'm the same way. There is no way to fully heal or recover from something like that. I was very very close to my grandmother and I miss her so much. I love to sit and think about her though, about the things she used to say or do, how funny she was. I still have some of her old perfume somewhere ,and it brings back a lot of great memories. It's really hard, but all you can really do is try to remember her as she was when she was alive. Remember the good times, not the sadness. I know its so hard to do, because it took me a really long time as well, especially since she practically raised me. Good luck, I really wish you all the best.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

It's okay to grieve. Eventually, you'll be able to think of her without hurting so much. Always remember her at her happiest, and be thankful that you had the pleasure of knowing such a wonderful person. Time heals all wounds.

Good luck.

Answer 7

I lost my boyfriend in 1997. We were going to be married.

But while I was out of town visiting my parents and suppose to met up with him later the weekend. He passed away.

His Truck broke down in the wrong neighborhood and was held up.
I bought him a nice cross. And the young boys held him up
asked for the cross with the gun pointing at him. He said no
and put cross in his shirt and turned his back to walk away
and one of the teen age boys shot him in back of the head.

It was real hard for me. But I prayed a Lot and went to church
more often. I was real upset at first but now I know he is looking out for me till we meet again. My pasture says he can still pray for me. One thing you have to do is let go of the dead.
Because you are not letting them rest. Life is not forever.
But we make the most of it. Let your Grandma rest.
Sorry for your lost.

Answer 8

i lost my brother 9yrs ago. today would be his birthday, i get really low on days like this but i have great memories of him and i still talk to him. i find talking out loud to him helps me and i know he's listening. the hurt might never go away but it does get easier with time, just remember your grandma is always with you. and one day you will see her again but for now i'm sure she would want you to be happy and have a good life. she never really left you, she's just waiting for you.

Answer 9

I know just one thing my dad told me when my granny died. "Don't be sad for her she's out of pain now. But it's ok to miss her and be sad for yourself that she's no longer there." So be sad for you. But don't let it take over your life. If it does, that isn't a good memorial for your grandma's life. Would she want you to live? Be happy? Live for her. Otherwise she's stuck in heaven watching a lousy show. No cable you see...just the lives of loved ones to watch. Be happy, for your sake and hers.

God bless

Answer 10

It takes time. When the feelings of pain seem overwhelming try to change your focus to all of the great memories that you have with your grandma.