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Question

Me and my brother are both adopted. I was told that if abortion was not aginst the law that we would not be here. I think some friends do not want to be my friend beacuse I was adopted.

Answer 1

That doesn't make any sense...why would a friend stop being a friend because of adoption? Are they treating you badly or are you feeling self-conscious? If you just found out and told them about it and they are acting differently then it may be because they are reacting to the changes in you...not your circumstances. If they are being creeps then they are not friends anyway...you sound pretty young...please don't feel like I am talking down to your age...but when we are younger and still searching for ourselves it can be hard to read our own emotions and actions, let alone someone Else's...good luck...and who ever gave you that line about abortion should be shot...or at least they should apologize, what in the world would they know about the beliefs and feelings of your birth mother? I don't care who said it, your adoptive parents or friends or other family...it was a cold thing to say and it sounds more like a political or religious belief than a statement of fact coming from their inside knowledge...good luck and find some good people to replace the jerks in your life!

Answer 2

Um, abortion is legal in many places...where do you live? Anyway, I was an unplanned baby, and my dad wanted my mom to have an abortion, she even went to the place to plan it. Then she decided not to have it, and here I am. Is that a good thing, yeah, for me it is. Sometimes I feel sad when I think about it, but overall, the life I'm living is what is important. You are here in this world, you have a brother who most likely loves you, and you can be a good person and bring love and happiness to others in the world. I have a hard time making friends myself because I'm shy, but I know the people in my life love me for me. The people who will be lucky enough to be in your life will love you for you as well, the fact that you're adopted will have nothing to do with it. Besides, just think of how much your adoptive parents wanted you and your brother - the adoption process isn't an easy thing, and they went through it so they could love and nurture you. So you have good things going for you. Just allow yourself to be open to love and good people, and you'll be ok. Good luck!

Answer 3

how old are you?i dont believe that people dont want to be your friend because you were adopted that just doesnt make since to me i think you need to get some type of counseling and figure out why you feel this way and i know being told that is abortion wasnt against the law you wouldnt be here that is wrong to tell someone that but the person that said that should be ashamed of themselves and it isnt your fault some people are just so screwed up in the head.You need to get help for yourself and work on doing positive things in your life and being with good people and this eventually will make you a stronger and better person the older you get so hang in there we are all here for a reason and one day you will look back and this person if they are still around will see how good you are that is the best revenge but in the mean time try not to let it bother you so much im not in your shoes so i dont know exactly what you are going through it would devastate me but it will make you a better person good luck to you guys cc

Answer 4

screw them then. abortion is wrong and there is nothing wrong with being adopted. if people don't like you just because you are adopted, then to hell with them. those people don't deserve to be your friend. they're too shallow. however, i don't think there are that many people like that. most people don't care if you're adopted or not. my brother in law was adopted and he has a lot of friends. he and my sister get a long and have been married for almost 10 years now. So while a few people may not like it, most don't care, or if anything some may be a little wierded out because they don't understand why exactly. Try explaining to them why and how it happened maybe or just talk to them about it a little. So they don't feel so confused.

Answer 5

Being adopted has nothing to do with it. Maybe if abortion was legal, you wouldn't be here, but you are, and you have been chosen to be someone's child. I think it is wonderful that your parents have adopted you and your brother. Think of it as a blessing, not a curse. Your mother probably had some real major issues and couldn't care for you. You are most likely better of without her. Friends dont' care if you are adopted or not.

Answer 6

How blessed you and your brother are. You two were picked by your family to be their children of choice. That means you are "special" to your adoptive parents.
Whoever told you that if abortion were illegal you would not be here is just plain ignorant, and should be ignored. You are here, like everyone else, because you are meant to be here. Ignore those kinds of cruel remarks and consider the source of mean spirited people who say such things to you.
If some people you know do not want to be your friend because you were adopted then they are not worth your friendship. Just keep being the same, smart, funny, bright children you are and I am sure you will have more than enough friends to last your entire lifetime.

Answer 7

That is horrible that you were told you would not be alive had abortion been legal!! Don't listen to that, even before abortion was legal, there were ways to have an abortion even if it was illegal. Obviously your birth mother cared enough about you to make sure you had a chance at a good life, even if she couldn't give it to you. If people chose not to be your friend because you're adopted they are ignorant and simple minded and you're better off without their friendship. Being adopted is nothing to be ashamed of!

Answer 8

Your are very lucky to be adopted, if as your fake friends say, if abortion was legal back then, you make not exist. I'm sure your parents LOVE YOU and take good care of you....I hope you love them. Don't let someone ever tell you that you are less of a person because you are adopted. God loves you and your parents love you, if your friends don't, that means they have no character and are trying to hurt you for no reason.....DON'T LET THEM HURT YOU ANYMORE, Find some new a better friends....Glen

Answer 9

Hey, buddy Don't listen to stupid people say. if People doesn't want to speak to u may be they don't deserve a special friend like u right. Think abut the positive side. They r silly. And u don't need a silly friend. i mean do u? I don't know how old u r but There is no reason to think about ur past or ur future. just do the best u can. EVerybody has a special gift. bring that out. Good luck

Answer 10

You got in your life more then once the message that you where not welcome by your real parents. Now again you get the same message, but from people you consider to be 'friends'.

Let me tell you this. First of all, those people are not your friends. Look for friends who appreciate you for who you are!

Second, it is a very nasty thing to tell you that you would have been aborted. That can leave big scars. Being given up by your birthmother gives big scars.
This is not your fault! It only shows their incompetence to take care of a child.

If this feelings you have are fundamental in you, that you shouldn't be alive or that you will never be good enough, please seek help. A good therapist can help you getting your selfvalue back again.