I recently quit my job and school to take care of my sick husband. His mother does not care for the way I do things so she wants to move back to Tennessee with my hubby. I am trying my best but it's not good enough for either of them. I can't compete with his mom. She's like super suzy home maker and I'm like the mediocre house wife fresh out of training. I have to admit I have been a career woman for years so I am a little wet behind the ears. But to just up and leave after I have given up everything? I can't believe it. Now rent is due and i am still waiting on my long term disability to kick in and they decide to drop the bomb on me that they're leaving. I just want to scream!
By the way, she doesn't like anything that I do (my food, my car, house) yet they use all of the above and then some. As a matter of fact she has full access to my vehecle whenever she wants to go anywhere. She has taken over my house and now she is taking my husband. I have nothing left now but the kids.
2006-06-15 03:50:00 · 13 answers · asked by Oracle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This reply is for the one called "stormy" LTD is what you recieve from unemployment when you quit your job due to a family medical condition. I am currently awaiting the results. No you do not qualify for benefits when you quit your job and unemployment does not pay out for quiting your job either, except for cases where you or someone in your family is sick. You have to file a seperate case in those instances. Please do your homework before making harsh assumptions.
2006-06-15 06:03:21 · update #1
Dance with the one that brought you. You have brought yourself this far alone(for all practical terms). Let the two of them go back to Tennessee. You and the kids stay there. Those two miserable wretches deserve each other. You will be a lot better off without either one of them. Good Luck!
2006-06-15 04:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Let them leave, I understand that he is your husband and you have sacrificed a lot for him, but how much more are you going to give up. Why not get another job, go back to school, and find someone that cares about you. If she tries to take your car tell her that she can't because you need it to look for a job. If you husband is willing to give up his family than let him, his kids will remember that. They will remember that he left you after all the sacrifices you made. Get a good lawyer.
2006-06-15 11:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. You don't want a guy who is still strapped to his mother's boob even after all these years. They are not setting a good example by making you feel like an idiot in front of the kids and then taking off. Personally, I'd confront her. If your husband wants to be with her, then so be it. He should be in her house. But this is your house and your car and you need to stand up for yourself for pete's sake. Don't let them do this to you!
2006-06-15 10:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by moveplease 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting a long-term disability check? If you did something dishonest and illegal to get money you are not entitled to after quitting your job, why should anyone believe anything else you say?
edit - Why do you claim to be the "wife" in this post, the "husband" in another, and a "single mother" in still another?
2006-06-15 12:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Stormy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to talk to your husband and tell him how this makes you feel. If he respects you and the work you do for him, he will stand up and tell his mother to back off. If, after talking with him, he still allows it to happen, maybe you should talk to her and just flat out explain things. We are all "wet behind the ears" at some point in our female lives. Good luck!
2006-06-15 11:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by redsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the kids, recover the privacy of your home and let Martha Stewart and son go to Tenessee, soon they will be fed-up with each other and he will to come back home.
No grown up man would stand being with mommy more than a month.
Good luck!
2006-06-15 11:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the best part of your relationship and skip it for if he is that much of a mommies boy then let her have him and take the kids and run and get a good attorney for once a mommy's boy always a mommy's boy and you can't compete with her anyway but there is a good man out there somewhere for you and you alone.
2006-06-15 11:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by what do you mean smooching 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is a total mama's boy. He chose her over you. I'd have a hard time not kicking either one of them in the head if I were you.
2006-06-15 10:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that with an ex sister in law and i told him at that time i want her out of the house today
she was gone when i finally came home from a 13 hour shift
2006-06-15 11:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful sounds to me that mom is very domineering, and your hubby needs to tell mom that everthing is fine and she needs to leave.. watch out, cuz if she that way with the hubby the kids will be next, i wouldnt worry about it, if she didnt like the way i do things, i'd tell her to leave its your home right? So who is your hubby married to you or his mommy? thats what i'd be asking!!!!!! I'd leave him too his mommy if thats what he wants, but just make sure she dont take over the kids.
2006-06-15 11:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by krista a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋