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Is it true that after marriage, the wife is suppose to become a slave? In other words, she stays home, cooks, cleans, takes the kids to and from school and soccer practice in a mini-van? [EWW! I hate that word!] Are we supposed to be like the creepy wives from that movie "The stepford wives?" If so, I refuse to become one!

Answer 1

good 4 ya.
instead u can b a workin self dependent woman.

Answer 2

I wouldn't call what you described a "slave." The house needs to be clean, meals need to be made, and whoever is doing this needs to be at home when they happen. Either one person ends up doing two jobs (the house work and the regular job) or one person stays home. "Sharing the housework equally" usually doesn't work, from what I've seen. Either one person makes more money, and so feels like they get the shaft, or one person refuses to pull their weight.

I know several families where the one doing those things is the husband. The wife makes $70,000 a year in one family, the husband had been working as a construction worker for $40,000 a year, so it was a no-brainer when the kids showed up. Before the kids, they had a maid that did all the house work.

Answer 3

No she should not be a slave to anyone, BUT, when we had children I did not want my wife to work. Why? Not really sure but I think it was because I thought taking care of the kids and working would be too much for her. I may have been wrong but I did not want to see my wife working, for me working sucks and I don't want her to go Thur the same thing, I liked to see her going out with the kids, meeting other parents being able to go have fun during the day etc. I stayed home with the kids one day and I will tell you what, I would never want the job you mothers do for any amount of money. I thank all you mothers and wives for all that you do. It is harder than any man could handle.

Answer 4

you become wht ever you want....... dont be those kinds of wives, hey each individual is different some women actually enjoy those things.... do the groceries cooking and cleanig and driving the mini van there is nothing wrong with that...when you get married just do things the way you feel the most confortable you dont have to be the creepy stepford wife....maybe you are young and dont understand the concept of been married is nothing wrong with having ideas about it.... when you get married you go ahead and approach it the way is best for you.... good luck.

Answer 5

No, you should do what you want to do. Some women want to work outside of the home, some don't. In my case I am a stay at home mom of 7 children because that's the life I chose. I do a lot more of the household chores than my husband but he does help out with the things I need him to. I just can't picture myself leaving my children everyday but some people need that break. I think that either way, as long as your children are happy, is fine. This is your life too and you have to do whats best for you and your family not only what your husband wants.

Answer 6

no it changes between each marrage now if you are a stay at home mom and the guy goes to work and bust his a$$ to support the family ya you should do the majoriity of the house work cause he is doing the finacial work to have the house and besides that what are you going to do all day sit around eatting bon bons. personally i think it is a team effort man cook sometime women the majority though but thats cause i can only cook a few things really good, she clean the house and the guy does the yard and the kids are a split effort along with both working at a job

Answer 7

Hah. And that's what you get for believing everything you see.

NO. Roles of husbands and wives are defined by themselves in their marriage. Sometimes the man wants to be a homemaker. Sometimes He's good with money, sometimes she is. You're supposed to take what skills you're best at and put them to work in your marriage to make things work best for your family. That's unique for everyone.

Answer 8

particularly everyone has diverse and person critiques, so for each opinion there is a minimum of a million person interior the worldwide with the choice opinion. for this reason, it is impossible for all of us to be incorrect. particularly everyone seems to be incorrect in some unspecified time interior the destiny of their existence although, if thats what you meant. you're being very obscure. while you're basically attempting to sound profound then I propose you artwork on that some greater.

Answer 9

Marriage does not enslave you, your life becomes what you want it to be. You are still in control of your destiny, and a good relationship usually contains agreements as to who does what. It's all about give and take and how much you care for the other person.
The minivan however, is essential and non - negotiable!!! :)

Answer 10

No my wife actually works and has her own income she does alot around the house but I help we have three kids and we do pretty well but in these day most family's needs 2 jobs to get by, but my wife doesn't talk to me and I think that she might have someone on the side so if you do get married remember to talk to him cause even if it might be boring to you and the samething happens everyday if he cares then it won't be boring to him.

Answer 11

I'm not married but i don't think I'll become a slave ever.....I'll keep my job and have children and take care of my family with the support of my husband if I'll ever get one..That's my idea of marriage.