Am I too paranoid?

Question

My hubby has cheated on me in the past. I have went through his cell found messages and found pictures and adresses. I did confront him and ask who she was to him? He said just a friend. I told him to stop talking to her because I was unconfortable. Di you belive he has stop or is he just telling me what I want to hear? I haven found anything latley but hes chnged his pass words to everything so I cant keep up with him. I sound like a crazy lady but thats what he has turned me into.

Answer 1

i think that you have every right to be suspicious and i think that he is most likely cheating again. i would say to divorce him. and dont' feel bad about it. the bible states the reason for divorce being adultery. so you're in the right. *hug* God bless you, hon and email or IM me if you want to talk some more.

Answer 2

Usually, your subconscious will pick up on things that we consciously don't think about, which is where our "intuitions" come from. My advice would be to suggest to your husband that while you don't want to be paranoid, you don't want to be a fool, either and explain that if he has done nothing wrong, why is he hiding it? I talk to people all the time on the net and don't hide it from my husband. I even talk to him about things I talk about or when I get perv's asking for "intimate encounters." I even started getting flowers on my car at school and told him about it and we both tried to figure out what was going on together. The fact that your husband is hiding it probably means he's talking to her in a way that you would not care for and he feels guilty. He may not be doing anything physically/sexually wrong, but if he's emotionally cheating, it counts. That being said, he may be on the up and up and you may have issues that you both need to work through. Talk to him in a non-confrontational way and see if you two can clear things up, explaining that you want to trust him and don't want it messed up over nothing... or something. If you still suspect something, however, you are probably more right than you will ever know, as you don't get those "feelings" for nothing usually.

Answer 3

Many people say "once a cheater, always a cheater" Don't go through the rest of your life wondering. Divorce is easy these days and there are many men that will respect you and not cheat. Going through his stuff, is what parents do to their children not to their husband. Trust is a huge part of marriage, if you dont have it then, What do you have?

Answer 4

You have to ask yourself if he has women friends and they are just friends, then why aren't you, his wife, being introduced to them? Once a cheat, always a cheat, but being married, you have to at least try to come to a resolution. You obviously don't trust him and this will erode your relationship. See if he will go to counseling with you. If not, go on your own and you will have the help you need to make the decision that's right for you.

Answer 5

you need to take a step back and examine what it is you are doing...you never fully resolved his cheating, you shouldn't have stayed with him unless both of you were able to move on with a much stronger relationship, not one weakened by infidelity and wrought with suspicion...he needs to be open with you, by hiding things and changing passwords he makes it seem as if he is doing something, but he simply may want some privacy...i suggest you both seek counseling...you should not remain married to him if you are going to be paranoid all the time...also, if he is cheating again, you must leave him, forever

Answer 6

Doesn't sound like he has stopped to me! Once a cheater always a cheater...words to live by! You need to get out, soon!!! Don't allow yourself to be hurt anymore. You deserve much better than some scuzbucket that's going to lie and cheat. Best of luck to you!!!

Answer 7

you havent found anything because he change his password honey,wake up and smell the bullshit.........this man is playing you in the worst way...dont let him do that to you....get the hell out of the relationship let another woman put up with that crab and find your self a winner.....there is good guys out there even if some people say that men are all the same,there is guys out there that want something stable and good dont sell your self short. your man doing this is very disrepectfull he is treating you as a dummy and wht is going to happend is that your self esteem is going to be so low that you are going to start to feel comfortable been his welcome mat. my advice to you is to dump his *** and tell him why.....practice with me...... im dumping you because you are a worthless piece of **** and i deserve better than you.............. see is easy.walk away and dont look back is nothing more better than to start over a new beggining,come on what you are waiting for honey take out the trash........good luck you are going to be fine.

Answer 8

Hes cheating, trust me! New passwords and the "Just friends": Routine are a dead give away. My ex husband did the same to me and we are now going through a divorce. Be careful!

Answer 9

I'd be ditching that guy. If you are still crazy acting and he hasn't done his best to appease your paranoid thoughts, then the guy is still cheating and not worthy of you. Don't listen to what he says. He will say anything not to have bad thoughts about him in your head. Just listen to your gut and get rid of him.

Answer 10

You have every right to be concerned. It is very hard to regain trust once it has been lost. I think your feelings are very genuine and would be most people's reaction. Why would a married man have such a close friendship with another woman? He sounds unfaithful to me.