help!!!!!!!!?

Question

me and my boyfriend have decided to get married and i have not told my mother yet how should i go about it

im 22 and live on my own

thank you to every one who ansewered my question

Answer 1

Have him ask your father or mother for permission.

It's the noble way to do it.

Answer 2

A question for the question...how old are you? You sound very young. I think that will set the mood for the whole conversation. If you are legally an adult, you can lovingly inform your parents of your decision, but I would be open to any suggestions from them. Do you have a good relationship with them? Sometimes your parents may see something in people that you can't. I got married young and I wish my dad would have told me how he felt about my future husband...at least the fact that he was uncomfortable with him...it may have saved me a lot of grief.

If your not a legal adult, you can still lovingly inform them that you would like to get married, but they may have the right to choose whether or not to bless your choice. It would probably be good if your boyfriend was there. See how he handles the situation if it doesn't go well...what he does or says could be an indication of how he will handle future problems in your relationship. That's important when you figure he will be responding to many things that will affect both your future and your relationship with him.

Approach the whole thing gently and openly. Be prepared for objections, then think your decision through carefully. Yeah, you can get a divorce if this turns out be the wrong thing, but your life will never be the same and the trauma of the separation can damage both of you for a long time. And what if you have kids?

Don't rush. If this relationship isn't going to work, marriage won't help it last. If it is, you will be better for having taken you time.

Answer 3

It sounds like you're scared to tell her, and I'm assuming if that's correct it's because she doesn't approve of your boyfriend. This is an adult decision so you need to do it in a mature way or she'll never accept it (trust me, it happened to my brother)!

Tell her together and pretend to listen to all of her suggestions and criticisms. There's no use fighting about it since it's not her decision, it's yours! Just try to respect her point of view and hold you tongue!!! She may be mad at first, but if you handle it respectfully she'll come around, it might just take a while (took my mom about 6 months after my brothers wedding!).

Answer 4

I think both you and your boyfriend should approach your mother and tell her. Are you concerned that she might say you are too young or that it is too soon or she will completely disapprove? Going together should show your mom that you both are serious about it. Depending on how old you are, ultimately your mom can't stop you. Good luck!

Answer 5

If you are worried about what your mom is gonna say, its not time to get married. It is suspose to be a happy thing with the support of your family.

Answer 6

You have your mother over for dinner or if you live with her invite your boyfriend over for dinner and have him make a formal announcement during dinner. It shows respect for your family and for it shows how important it is to him.

Answer 7

IF U WORRIED ABOUT WHAT YOUR MOM IS GOING TO SAY THEN IT IS NOT A GOOD TIME FOR U TO GET MARRIED AND DEPENDING ON YOUR AGE YOUR MOM SHOULD BE HAPPY 4 U SO U AND YOUR BF NEED TO TALK TO HER

Answer 8

Why is it a big deal to tell her? Are you very young? Does she not like your boyfriend? Just do it & get it over with..

Answer 9

You are your boyfriend should go see your mother together and drop the bomb. She'll be thrilled.

Answer 10

relax, honey. just sit her down and tell her. it might not be easy, but it's what's what in this situation. if you want to talk to someone or vent or whatever just email me at [e-mail] or simply IM me. :) *hug* trust me....just breathe and it'll be okay!