Wife hates all the things, that I love to do as a husband. Also wife will not join with husband to go out everywhere to different places. Wife and husband have abolutely nothing in common with each other. 13 years of (married) misery for husband and counting.
2006-06-15 03:35:41 · 19 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it took you 13 years to figure out that wife and husband have nothing in common????? well if is not working is not working.tell her you need marriage counseling and if she refuse leave,before you waste the rest of your life been unhappy in a boring marriage.good luck
2006-06-15 03:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, see how she feels about the marriage. I am sure she may feel the same way. I think I probably felt like her. It,s not that I wasn't interested in what my wife liked, but I had a resentment about the lack of affection and lack of connection. Kind of had a attitude that would not go away. Yes that happened for 13 years also. Within the past month, it's been great, she Finlay just came home one night and said I am sick of living this way, we had great sex the whole week long which lead to touching, holding hands and just wanting to be together. We had gotten babysitters and have gone out together, we are actually going to the beach tomorrow while the kids are in school. You may have things in common, it's weather you 2 want to be together? I will bet she has the same resentment and attitudee I did, show her some affection change her attitud and you will see the light as I did, then hang on because things get better than ever from there.
2006-06-15 03:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't be doing everything wrong or the marriage wouldn't have lasted 13 years!! That's a long time to stick it out without something cementing it together.
Maybe you've both matured and moving in different directions. Compatibility is the rarest of all things in a relationship simply because of change. What we want changes over the years and our dreams change too.
Maybe you both got together for the wrong reasons but stuck it out in hope of change, which ever you have stuck it out for a reason.
If nothing in common, and nothing bonding you together, then why are you together?
Children?
Yeah, it's worth fighting for the "family", did it myself but I was to discover that I couldn't create changes unless changes were wanted by others; alone we are fighting a losing battle
It's never too late to re-discover her, and her you all over again you know!!!
2006-06-15 03:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by WW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called compromise. If you're constantly wanting to whisk her off to do things you enjoy, but she doesn't, then what do you really expect? Try taking her out to do the things she enjoys, she's obviously suffered through your interests, you should at least reciprocate the generosity.
And who knows, you might actually find something you two have in common, wouldn't that be a nice surprise after 13 years?
2006-06-15 06:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by kathy059 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 19:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by durgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt U loved each other when U first started out? However, I'd say be practical, you've both stayed the course longer than U needed to. Say good-by to each other - stay friends if U can. Start a new life.
2006-06-15 03:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone that goes through the same thing.
On New Years Eve his wife decided she would go out with him, he was so excited, then she changed her mind & didn't go.
It's funny that one could end up with someone that doesn't share any of the same interests. He left her, she was miserabel without him, he came back & he's back in the same situation.
I'm sorry I don't have an answer for you, but I don't think it will change. At least it hasn't for my brother in over 20 years.
2006-06-15 03:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll spell it out for you: D I V O R C E.
Sometimes people aren't meant to be together and you have to wonder why you got married in the first place.
2006-06-15 03:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by crazycanadianmonkeys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when you married her you must of had something in common??
maybe you both need to get away together find that spark again
try doing different things together or give In U do the things she likes to do then hopefully she will join you in your activities..
good luck dude,
2006-06-15 03:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by muffett1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling counseling counseling. Makes a person wonder how you became married in the first place. Maybe wife doesn't like you either.
2006-06-15 03:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by moveplease 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋