What do I do?

Question

What do you do when your boyfriend works on his cars EVERYDAY!!!!! I feel like those cars are more important than me, and im not being selfish I just want to feel loved! I told him how I feel and he flipped and said maybe we should end it, but then he took it back and said I was his reason for living. What can I do to make him want to spend more time with me, I mean I already cook him supper, clean his house , wash his clothes and pluck his eyebrows!!!! What do I have to do to get the love I need in return?? I'm afraid if we dont do something soon we are gonna grow apart and neither one of us want that even though he dont show it! Please help me!!!

Answer 1

thats strange and difficult to answer... .have you tried sex??if not,then do it and see how would it work...u can make love together then...

Answer 2

First you have to understand that there is a basic difference in what men and women want. Understand that we don't want the same things, at the same time.

That being said....

When you say you "want to feel loved," that DOES sound a little selfish (especially to a man) "I want to feel loved" is a vauge term that can mean so many different things to a man. Yes, YOU understand perfectly well what that means, but your boyfriend doesn't, that's clear.

Tying to convey how you feel to your boyfriend was met with negativity because no man (your b/f included) wants so to discuss feelings with a woman, NOR the status of your relationship.

I don't know how long you two have been together, but it sounds to me like you two have been together a looong time. He's paying less attention to you because he's either bored of your relationship, or too comfortable with it. Does it seem like he's taking you for granted? You already get the sense that you're growing appart. Well, there may be hope for your relationship.

If your boyfriend was asking this question, I would advise something else, but since YOU'RE asking, here's my advise:

First, come to terms with your "need to be loved." You're not going to get that from him anytime soon. You can discuss your needs with your girlfriends, family members, gay friends, or a professional therapist. Just don't bring it up to your b/f. He doesn't want to hear it, let alone, DEAL with it.

Next, give your man a lot of breathing room. Don't "bother him" about what YOU want (and believe me, right now from his point of view, it IS a bother - hence, the arguments). Let him BE. Let him do whatever he wants to do. When he goes off doing other things, IT DOES NOT MEAN he doesn't love you. Of course he loves you, and probably always will.....he just doesn't want to spend his time worshiping the ground you walk on, or treating you like a queen (do you understand?). He has other interests, and perhaps you should try to get other outside intrests too.

He already knows that you're a good woman to him. But you're gonna have to let your man BE a man. Let him be.....but the important thing here is that YOU HAVE TO CONVEY TO HIM THAT YOU'RE OK with him pusuing his other intrests. Don't make it seem like you're "so needy." And don't make it seem that you're pushing him out either.

Tell him that he's free to do whatever he wants (yes, whatever he wants!) and you're ok with it, as long as he treats you well. Right now, he's feeling preasure to "fulfill your needs" and satisfy you, while at the same time, coming to grips with the things he wants to do and/or needs to do. You have to RELEASE HIM FROM THAT PREASSURE if you want to save your relationship.

After some time, the result will be that he's going to appreciate you more! Eventually he'll come around and fulfill your needs. He already loves you, and he's never going to forget or jeopardise that. Just give him some breathing room, and he'll be with you forever.

Answer 3

start doing the things he likes, to start help him taking care of is car, u see from very next day he will start taking care of u. because you are honoring his feeling, his love for car, definitely the Love between u two will grow

Answer 4

if neither one of you wanted to grow apart you wouldn't...things happen naturally and things happen for a reason...if he cannot provide you the type of attention you need to be happy, then maybe you need to find a man who can...and if you can't let him work on his cars as much as he likes and be happy, then maybe he needs to find another woman...if you are not happy, you are not happy and this is not love

Answer 5

if he loves car than u do love cars.it wil make him impressed. when he is in a good mood tell him living things need more care than a car.he will realize the fact.but don't show him that u don't like cars.all the best

Answer 6

For us guys, cars are like our second girlfriend we treat them with love and caring.