I'm sick of entertaining the crazy thoughts in my head: he's got a fetish for traffic jams, he's doing his quarterly burlesque show, he can only get hotdogs like that at that one joint on the north side, he's visiting the other family he adopted, say in Evanston, he's making rounds to the nursing home where he's written into the resident's wills? STOP THE INSANITY!! The best answer will be the one I PROMISE to stick with and just "let it go, man." And NO, before you ask he cannot explain to me where he disappears to. I've asked. Please know I am not loosing sleep over this. It is a mystery. We visit the south side and I think he's going over near Forest Park, Hillside and Oakbrook Terrace. We live 5.5 hours away, by the way.
Thanks. Peace. And don't be insulting, please. We got a good thang goin'.
2006-06-15 03:08:35 · 32 answers · asked by Sleek 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he will not tell u he is either embarressed about what he is doing or he is doing something u would kill him 4.there r 2 ways u can deal with it one is 2 give him his space and just drop it cause if u can deal with him disappearing then just let it be u do not need 2 know everything he is ur hubby not ur child.two u can force the issue,have him followed and make his life hell until u find out the truth.personally if u know he is not a cheat dont sweat it u do not own him let him have his space.dont tell me u dont have ur little secrets u do not want him 2 find out,seriously.
2006-06-15 03:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You'll never know since he won't say. Your gonna have to spy on him. Check things out when he gets back(you know what I mean). How long has that been happening? Guys are just as weird as us woman too. We can go off for hours just looking at stuff in stores, talking to our girls, just enjoying alone time. They probably wonder about us too. He's probably visiting he Buddy's, could be at a bar to shoot pool or on the front porch ? You will always wonder and your imagination can run like the wind. I think for peace of mind you are just gonna have to, I hate to say follow him but, but it would certainly put your mind at ease. Do you have a friend that can help, or a taxi could be the answer but might be expensive. Some men are just sneaky and cover so well. Some are honest & legit, you gotta know what you got.
2006-06-15 03:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I would LOVE to help. But I can't. No one on here can. I wish I could have telepathic powers and read your husband's mind. There is the unmentionable option but we'll leave that alone. Try this one. I would dig on it.
He has slowly been arranging a surprise romantic getaway. It takes him hours to get the shopping done. I mean come on. He has to arrange for all new clothes for you and pick out the perfect ones. That penthouse hotel room had better be damn spotless for his adoring and wonderful wife. (I hate to break it to you but sometimes he beats the maids when he finds a speck of dust). He has had a little trouble booking the string quartet. I mean, it takes a lot to audition so many willing participants. But he'll pull it together. You just have to be patient and trust him. That's what marriage is about.
2006-06-15 03:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...we know who wears the pants in this family. I could imagine what it would be like if I disappeared for three hours and refused to tell my wife where I'm going on a continous basis. And I have a good thing with my wife! Since he's not telling you, he's keeping a secret. Secrets are bad when they are hidden from the spouse. Maybe he's building a mansion for you to live in. At this rate......it should be complete when your 95....just act suprised!
2006-06-15 07:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by highroller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was watching a recent TV show called, "cheaters.com" It was really interesting to watch detectives follow women's husbands around. A lot of men love their wives, but it's hard for them to give up the notion of never sleeping with another woman. It's a sad thing, and it's a self-esteem or addiction problem for them I suppose. Whatever the reason, I would have my husband trailed. From there, I would discuss my "husband's" issues with him to see if there is a resolve. If there isn't one, "Cya Later Baby!"
2006-06-15 04:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow three hours. Well my friend it's sometimes the quiet one's who start the rukus if u know what i mean. Ur husbands absents r wierd i mean how long has he been doing this. Hey i bet if you stop going to Chicago he'll start complaining. TEST HIM. it's the only way to do things u have to figure out what he's doing.
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2006-06-15 03:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unexplained absences are never good nor should they be accepted. I'm sure he did this prior to marriage and you thought he would change?
It could be he's on the DL, another woman, or simply kicking with his boys in da hood!!!
If you really want to know, check it out for yourself. Have a rented or borrowed vehicle on hand and become snoop doggy dog!!!
Otherwise, live with it as you have and move on.
2006-06-15 03:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't really know what to say to this .kinda sounds crazy but don't jump to conclusion why would you think that he is doing anything other than what he is telling you do you have reasons not to trust him? maybe you should suggest going with him on one of his little trips. but don't be too pushy. he might sence the ditrust. have you had a talk with your husband heart to heart about this. let him know that it makes you uncomfortable and you feel like he is not telling you everything. i hope things work out for you
2006-06-15 03:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband is faithful and honest and your inlove with him...and this is just a mystery and you trust him...i dont see anything to worry about...talk to him...let him know that you trust him and love him its just bothering you a little bit about where he disappears to for three hours when you guys visit Chicago...if he still can not answer you and you still believe that he isnt cheating or anything like that then leave it as it is...you know him best and you know what he is and isnt capable of doing...just trust your womens intuition...thats the best advise i can give you...good luck with everything
2006-06-15 03:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him, if he refuses to tell you, then follow him in a cab or something. If you have a good thang going, then he should be up front about this recurring disappearing trick!
2006-06-15 03:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋