I am thinking of relocating and starting over. What are some ideas on how to do this successfully. Any good areas to move to? That you can raise a child in.
2006-06-15 03:03:11 · 8 answers · asked by T B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my town is great, small, quiet, good schools. we need some smart people here. find a friend who can see about getting you a job and a place to stay.
2006-06-15 07:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
The first thing I would do is see if there are any areas where I would be able to find work. Then I would find out about the schools in that area. See the link below. If you find an area that seems like it may be a fit, you need to find out about real estate. Will you rent? Will you buy property? Talk to people you know to see if they know anyone who lives in that area. Maybe you'll receive some feedback. Most of all, plan a short visit to see the place for yourself firsthand. Visit real estate agents (believe nothing they tell you, just get a feel for prices), go to the local school districts, and visit the local police departments. Find out about community services in that area. What are the taxes? Read the local newspapers and see if there are any controversial zoning problems for the area where you're thinking of relocating to. It wouldn't be nice to travel across the country and move into a beautiful new home only to discover that they're going to build a nuclear reactor next door to you. It will take a lot of work, and some diligence, but a move is important. Have fun with it, as this is going to be a positive thing for you. And most of all, Good Luck!
2006-06-15 10:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depend on if you are relocating on a tight budget or with plenty of $$$ behind you.
I have relocated twice (in which I was footing the bill).
The first time because I was single and was relocating to Any area I had family, I did not require a significant budget... I knew I would easily find a job in my field at the time so I basically sold off all my non-essentials, sored others, and went with only the bare essentials. This worked well for me because I had next to free housing/board until I found an apartment of my own...
The second time I was moving to an area that I had lived for a short time 20 years earlier but didn't know a person in that community. I was also relocating with my wife, 2 kids (14 & 11y/o) and my Greyhound (the four legged variety). We had planned this move for several years and actually rloacated 50 miles from my now former wife's community so that the family would get used to not having extended family just around the corner (she had never lived farther than a 5 minute drive from her parent's homestead or a close cousin)... ANYWAYz, the short distance relocation prepared the family mentally for the cross country move (1200 miles for the ex's family) and prepared us for not knowing anyone in our new area...
Even with the planning involved we were unable to bank any substantial funds for the move and chose to move with only the essentials... Several month prior to the move I rented a hotel room in the new city site unseen for 6wks with a guarantee of the same rate should we needed to extend our stay... Best move we could have done (the guaranteed rate that is) since we ended up staying in the hotel room for over 8 months and the guarntee saved us 1000's of $$$ since the seasonal room rate would have cost us 3-4x what we agreed upon... we chose to stay in the hotel and wait for the right house/apartment instead of grabbing anything and due to a very restrictive real estate market in our area this ment an extended wait/stay...
Also, neither of us had jobs in the new city, so both of us quickly picked up low level work outside of our fields to pay the bills... I must say I hate working in the hospitality industry but there were jobs there and beggers can't be choosers...
Moving this way took us a full year to get back on our feet and feel settled... by that time we had made several close freinds in the community and thru our church...
Looking back now (it's been 3 yrs), with the limited budged we had to relocate, I don't see any major improvements we could have made... while moving into any apartment/house may have been somewhat more comfortable, the cost of moving a second (actually a 3rd X) time only a few months later would have just squeezed our budget more and caused our kids to be less settled since thy would have to change schools mid year and then change back a few months later when we found the house we wanted...
As far as to your question about good areas for a child to live, I think most towns and smaller citieds have areas that are healthy environments for children... you just got to be choosy...(see above), but in being choosy you must be willing to make short term sacrifices for long term gains (again see above)... And you must know how much you and your family can sacrifice without driving the other(s) insane... (our hotel stay could not have gone on another month or I think someone would have killed someone else due to the lack of privacy)...
Good luck
2006-06-15 12:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by Nitrox Frogy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know your situation but i left a very abusive situation i left a home,cars and all my belongings and moved about 1500 miles away from my home and i am starting over it has been about 7 months and i have a decent job and i will be getting a car soon and then be looking to get into a place of my own it just takes time this way,hopefully you have money saved and i dont know where you are from but i went from a small country home/city in oklahoma and now im living on the east coast by the ocean it is gorgeous here and lots of opportunity and it is different between night and day it isnt home but i have visited here before and i loved it,you need money and a plan if you dont have family or friends supporting you it will just take time and it is so scary but if it something you need to do,do it and i wish you all the good luck in the world and i will give you advice to honey your problems will not go away but it will let you deal with them in a different way and in time you will see things differently i have it is hard somedays but you get through it and it is lonely you make new friends and meet new people and you do what is best for your child and yourself and im sure you will do good i havnt been in to many places in my life but this is good for me i just take one day at a time i have to do it this way and another tip if you really want to relocate go somewhere completely different far away to where it wont be so easy to go back from where you left so good luck with this cc
2006-06-15 10:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by readyhead42@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't relocated, but I've had some friends who have and they told me it always helps to have a job already so you don't have to worry about not having money once you get where you're going.
It's also nice if you have friends or family in the area who can look for an apartment or house for you or that you can crash at until you find a place. They can also help you find your way around.
I think there's a website citysearch, or something like that, that will tell you everything you need to know about a communtiy. Most communties have web sites now and you can find lots of information that way too.
Good luck to you
2006-06-15 10:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well would be alot to think about the best resource of course is internet. Theres a place called choosemyspot.com (I believe). That gives you several questions that you answer and then it tells you ideal places for you. Look for areas that have plenty of jobs available as well as housing. Then you could pull those places up and check the schoolong and population and etc etc. It usually has all kinds of info on these city's. I've considered it myself so I just started doing search's on top places to live and things liek that. It will take you to all kinds of sources. Good luck
2006-06-15 10:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check things out, I live in a really quiet and nice area, great for raising kids, good schools, very low crime, but Walmarts is the biggest employer around. We have no "clubs", things close down early and people will talk to you.
I am not dependant on the area for making money, so I live here because it is quiet and peaceful.
2006-06-15 10:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by anvilsandinkstudios 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get everything set up before you go house job etc as for raising a child that all depends on how you want to raise them as to where is good or bad for them
2006-06-15 10:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by snowboarder 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋