Did you manage to sort it out get over it and move on. Maybe things are betternow because you have a good understanding of each other?
2006-06-15 03:02:34 · 27 answers · asked by dizzymooo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes the affair is the thing that finally makes everyone able to be honest. If handled well it can be a thing that brings you closer together after working through the hurt.
2006-06-15 03:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose its depends on who had the affair, I had one and we managed to sort things out for a while but we split up at the end (about 3 years later) The lesson I learnt from that was to sort out the reason why you were tempted to have an affair in the first place and work on that.
If the problem doesn't go away you will be tempted to stray again.
2006-06-15 03:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship was good in the first place, There would NOT have been an affair.
Having been through this myself, I realised the trust had gone and we were both very unhappy, I stayed to try and work things out for our 2 year old daughters sake but things just got worse. I decided i'd had enough and left him. I am much happier now, and so is my daughter.
2006-06-17 03:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by snow.-.angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been tested, thankfully.
However, while I feel that I could forgive most things, I am fairly certain that I would find an affair beyond forgiveness.
Maybe other people are better than me.
But I honestly believe that I would be unable to forgive such a breach of trust.
How would you ever be able to restore trust to the relationship?
2006-06-15 03:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by emeraldisle2222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that and no it lasted 10 years and was hell.but then again he continued 2 screw around and well I caught him every time.yeah that was fun.if you both r commited 2 change n make things better then I do not see why it would not work but once a cheat always a cheat is true about 99% of the time.
2006-06-15 03:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it happened to me, My Husband had an affair but we stuck together and talked it through. The pain never goes away but you learn to live with it. We are now stronger and more in love than ever.
2006-06-15 04:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by suzanne m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i hav stayed with my partner . i was havin affair with her but she left me bcoz of her career makin thoughts. when she left me i was feelin very bad. on that i thought that i will never talk to her in my life and will never see her but god played his mind games with me. we meet after 1 year in an company where we both got the jobs. later company gave us a flat to be shared my us both. few days we were behaving like starngers but later we both started lovin each other. and now we both r together again and really this works .may be it willbe workin for u
2006-06-15 03:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by vish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been through this. He had an affair and it actully helped our marriage. Because he was able to admit to things that we hadnt talked about and we became able to talk more and tell each other more things.
2006-06-15 03:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might have an "understanding" of each other, but you will not have trust. it will always linger. it will always stick in the other's mind. and if the person you had that affair with has any emotional attachment to you or you to them, then there will ALWAYS be the "what if" factor. what if i was with him/her, would i still feel this way?
2006-06-15 03:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by UNeverKnow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did stay but things started of really nicely once again but after a little argument the old days were remembered so things turned out to be bad and very bad indeed. so it did not work out me.
2006-06-15 03:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by ~ Helin ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋