Iv been best friends now with 1 of my lad m8z for a few years now.. Suppose its only just hit me that i feel more 2wards him than i realised. Iv been with a few people through our friendship and suppose i woz silly not 2 realise how much he means to me.. Well he has been with this girls for just over 5 mnthz and he has told me that he isnt happy. I try 2 be a good friend 2 him and tell him to hang in there n work things out with her, talk 2 her.. ect.. She is a complete ***** to him but he says that deep down he does love her.. He always gets mixed up with our names, and his girlfiend does get really jelous when were 2gther. All our friends think we should be 2gether, and there only reason were not is because he seems 2 think he cant do better that his girlfriend because shes very pritty n the sort of girl everyone fanceys.. A few friends have told me that i should tell him how how i feel.. wot do u think?? should i just wait till there over??
2006-06-15 02:53:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thats all good. The girlfriend sees what you see. I'm sure if notified he would also see -- friend love turns out well because there are very few secrets and much love! Nice to not have to explain who you are and how you are to someone. If he just wants to keep it cool -- so be it -- nothing lost and you still we be his friend after the pretty one goes on her complicated merry little way.
2006-06-15 02:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question. If he dumps her just for you, then there is a lot of pressure on you. If the relationship fails, he could well turn on you and say that he had a perfectly good thing going that you broke up.
On the other hand, good mates make for the best long term relationships. You start from a friendship, which is the basis for the relationship. If he's not happy, then he needs to get out of the relationship and perhaps if you tell him how you feel he may realise that he can do a lot better than the current girl. Good looks only go so far, a good heart and good friendship goes much further.
2006-06-15 02:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by bigfirie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until its over because you'll be blamed for the split etc. I then think you should give him an altermatum. Tell him that you are his friend and you value his friendship but you hate seeing how upset this girl makes him. Say that you refuse to stand by and watch him live his life in missery and if he doesnt do anything about it then you have no alternative but not be his friend. See who he values the most (though it may take him a while to realise it!)
2006-06-15 03:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked Top. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write this chap a letter, explaining that you want more from your relationship, but that if he feels differently you would still like to be friends. Chances are he's too daft to notice your attention, and it hasn't occurred to him that he might like you too. A letter gives him chance and time to mull it over, work things out, then get back to you, better than putting him on the spot when you talk to him, and end up falling out.
2006-06-15 02:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by K38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh i had the same thing happen to me years ago. I never got the chance to tell him and he enedd up marrying her and had a miserable 10 years of marriage with her abusing him and cheating on him. During a time when he needed a person to cry on he came to me and we ended up in an affair where he told me he loved me. But when he was with her , he was on lots of depression medicine and has a type of amneisa where he doesnt recall a full year of his life. He is now divorced and still talks to me on the daily basis. He wants so badly to remember how he feels since he does care for me very much...but now that I am married myself we arent sure what to do since I love my husband very much. My advice is to go and tell him now....Tell him to his face and leave it up for him to decide...let him know that you dont want him to leave her just for you....but for what he feels in his heart. Good luck with it...
2006-06-15 03:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ladygothyka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jump in with both feet and tell him how you feel, you have nothing to lose, you know if he stays with his present GF she will do her best to cut you out of the picture!
2006-06-15 02:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Augie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup.. wait. he's obviously confused right now. so it's best if u let him have some time to figure out what he really wants and hopefuli maybe realise he actually loves u too.
2006-06-15 03:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by Masquerade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was also in love with my best friend. You know now we are in a relationship, we love each so much that we can't stay a moment without . It is better when you know first him as a friend, so you know him better...
2006-06-15 03:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by ice cream with chocolate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'r meant to be together, you will naturally fall together. Having said that you could drop some hints. Or just flash your gash.
2006-06-15 03:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by Marxsparx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you think that you really love him and wants to be wiht him well you might say to him how you feel about him so it is up to you what you will =do and try to say some thing that he shouldn't be mad at you so anyways good luck
2006-06-15 03:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by alpha_aden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋