ok. ive been with my BF for 4 years. we are 23 years old. he has been thinking of moving in together. the thing is that we are hispanic (very close family relationships.) we both still live with our parents since we just graduated college. he is the youngest of 8. and i am the oldest of 3. i want to move in with him but i know my parents and family will disaprove. i feel like i cant because it is wrong (i believe you get married before you move in). i know how things are now (people moving in all the time without getting married) but i just dont know what to do. i know his family will be ok with it. we feel like this can be the next step in the relationship before getting married. what to do?
2006-06-15 02:45:47 · 10 answers · asked by BeAuTiFuL 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You obviously aren't comfortable with this situation as you say he has been thinking about living with you, not you both living together.At the end of the day your friends and family will get over it if they see you are happy, but I think you should only do it if you want to. Whats wrong with getting married? You have already been together for a few years, May be you should do that instead of compromising on your personal beliefs.
2006-06-15 02:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that you should get married before you move in with each other. it is okay if you stay over or something like that. It is better if you keep your space. But then on the other hand if you move in together you will see how it is when you have to see each other everyday. Then this will prove if it is time for marrige. Now that I think about it, if you have been together or 4 years it might be time to take it to the next step. So I think you should try it out and see how it goes. If you love him it shouldn't matter what your parents and family mambers think. Just think on what you believe and feel your relationship should be moving towards. Hey he might even be thinking on marrige and he wants to see how you guys live together and maybe he might propose.
2006-06-15 02:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by b_riley07h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe you shouldn't live with someone until you're married, then don't change your views just because it is the next step. Many people don't live together until they are married.
2006-06-15 02:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by bluskygreengrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is to not move in with him and just wait until you are married to be living with someone.
2006-06-15 02:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you want to do. you are an adult now and if this is something that makes sense and makes you happy you should do it. If you are unsure or have reservations, you should wait. What's the rush? You've got your whole life ahead of you :)
2006-06-15 02:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you should move in cause if you really think your goin somewhere with him that would be the next step in your relationship.
2006-06-15 02:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move in if you want. i left my family when i was 18.
2006-06-15 02:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents forgive and forget...and besides the times we live in that's considered normal
2006-06-15 02:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by grateful6979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please. don't do it. if you should be together. get married. this will lead to issues... why would you even need to get married if you live together? then .. you won't.. get your own place. he can come over every day.
2006-06-15 02:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by jackswims2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same position parents get mad and dissapointed what are children for if not that when they see how happy you are they will come round everybody have to brake away doesnt matter wat way you do it
2006-06-15 02:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by helenamcdonagh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋