2006-06-15 02:44:59 · 29 answers · asked by sumi_soft17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey you need to break up with him yesterday!!! He is a dangerous person and will do you harm. He has mental problems. But you already no that don't you? Please tell your parents about him so you can keep safe.
Guys like him will be wife beaters of the future.
Take care and watch your back. If he threatens you go to the police and get a restraining order against him.
Find somebody who will love and respect you.
G.G.
2006-06-15 02:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need a boyfriend who is secure and confident in himself. Get rid of him and find a man. These type of people can be dangerous in the long run as their twisted minds start imagining things that aren't even close to the truth. They sometimes reach the point where they become abusive and even murderous. So, yeah, dump the punk and be safe. The right guy WILL come along - guaranteed!
2006-06-15 02:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what he does that is possessive and why he doesn't trust you.
Is he abusive? If he is, you should consider getting out now.
My husband tends to be possessive and jealous of the time I spend with my girlfriends. It took us some time to figure out where we stand with each other on this issue. My time with my friends is important to me and I go out with them one night a week. He has grown to understand and support that, but it wasn't easy. But just because he was possessive, it wasn't necessarily a reason to dump him. But if he was not going to understand that I do need to spend time with my friends and if he couldn't learn to trust that I would never do anything to hurt him while I'm out - our relationship wouldn't have worked out and I never would have married him.
We dont' have enough information to really help you. All I can tell you is a lot of what he says and does is unlikely to change dramatically. If you can't come to some sort of compromise that you can live with then it's time to consider that this might not be the right guy for you. But if you can work out your problems so you are both happy with the result, then your problem is solved and you could be very happy together.
2006-06-15 02:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say leave. Control opens the door to abuse. While some jealousy is safe, (ie. he doesnt want you out with other men, or gets ruffled when men hit on you) being possessive can be dangerous. If he makes you feel uncomfortable you should just drop him. Otherwise you will start making excuses for him, and end up in a relationship youre too afraid to leave, and you will stay and have your head completely messed up, and you will be a broken girl indeed.
2006-06-15 02:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good relationship needs trust. Trust is based on respect and if he doesn't trust you then he probably doesn't respect you as much as you deserve. On the other hand, he might just be insecure himself, unable to believe that he is lucky enough to have you. I felt that way with the woman I ended up marrying.
Build his self confidence, let him know that you really are only interested in him, and you may resolve the problem. If not, then you might have to look elsewhere.
2006-06-15 02:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by bigfirie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can definitely relate to your concern because my boyfriend is also and I tell him on a daily basis to stop being jealous and insecure around me because that is the fastest way to push me away from him. If we go in the store together and a guy speaks to me or looks at me and I look back he'll wait until we go back to the car to say something. I just tell him i'm not going to walk around and keep my eyes and mouth shut because it's rude and if he can't handle it then he can roll out. I don't let anyone control my actions because i'm responsible for my actions. If your boyfriend is that controlling tell him you can do better and pick up your confidence that he shot to hell and move on. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!! If no one else believes in you down to yourself, I do.
2006-06-15 03:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by reesebutter1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hate to tell you this but you probably need to get rid of the situation,i know and this type of relationship is miserable and he probably is saying he doesnt trust you because he is not to be trusted and more than likely he is the one that is doing things he is not suppose to be doing it is control for him and woman fall into it i did and it sucked actually so get out now because alot of times it just gets worse i have told my story on here many a time just dont sweetie wish you lots of luck
2006-06-15 02:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by readyhead42@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take care of you. You should always strive to take care of you. Most men with this personality trait, is trying desperately to hide something about themselves. This personality also often leads to verbal and physical abuse. Get out of it and find real love. I know you may think you love this guy and he loves you, but no man loves or respects you if he doesn't trust you and treats you like property. You should love you more than anyone on earth and that mean that you respect yourself enough to get out of that kind of environment.
There is a man out there who is going to find you, love and respect you!
Clarissa
2006-06-15 02:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by mrschloerichardson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't trust you now he won't later. Leave him before you invest to much time and regret it. Also you might want to suggest he seek the advice of Dr. Phil.
2006-06-15 02:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by Deeney1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new boyfriend. this one is just going to get worse as time goes on. before you invest too much time and energy - find someone with some respect for you.
2006-06-15 02:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by Josie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋