she tells me i'am not her mother and she don't have to listen to me. been around this child sense she was 4 years old. now she just has no respect for me.
2006-06-15 02:32:50 · 10 answers · asked by short_slim_betty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Shes just using that as an excuse for her rebellion just stay firm with love and when she passes this phase and looks back she will love you more for staying by her,even birth parents go thought this ,she just has a little more hurt full words to give you because you are her step mom, Also explain to her what a mother is not and you vow to stand by all those standards for her....
2006-06-15 02:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by stargazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lotsa teens go thru a rebellious period. Try to show her tough love. Be firm and unwavering in your moral beliefs and at the same time be tender, loving and respectful towards hers.
Remember she's not a 4 year old anymore and is trying her hand at Independence. How bout giving her a bit of room....in the end it'll all be sweet, I'm sure .
2006-06-15 09:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by jewel_o_th_night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you are her Mother, and you have to accept that before she will. You may not be her biological mother, but you've done all the hard stuff as well as all the good stuff.
Its normal for teenagers to reject authority, its a normal part of life and sometimes all you can do is let them know that you will always be there for them. If she tells you that she doesn't love you, then tell her that's ok, because you still love her. When she tells you that you're not her mother, explain to her that you may not have given birth to her, but you love her as much as any mother could. Its also OK to let her know that she is hurting your feelings, but that you forgive her, because that's what mothers do.
2006-06-15 09:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by bigfirie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen here first let me tell u that i have 9 kids and only and only three is mine. but gettin 2 the point is that all of them respect me as if i was there real mother u want to no y that is because i talk with authority i dont put authority now u see how u do it u let her no dats its ur house, ur rules, and i been with u this long i might as well be ur real mother u lot her no wats goin down and tell her to respect dat.
2006-06-15 09:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by natalie d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her father talk to her and set the rules.
Step kids are a lot of heart ache!!!! They play their parents and steps against each other by complaining to the other parents about you. They ALL do it! Trying to get the approval of EACH parent by diss`ing the others.
Tell your husband he needs to do the right thing, and inform her and the child's biological mom that these things will not be tolerated.
Also do NOT let every visit to your home be a HOLIDAY. This encourages the above mentioned "princess syndrome".
2006-06-15 09:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by dbzgalaxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a sit down heart to heart with her. explan that you are not trying to take her mother's place, but however you are an adult that deserves respect. then you need to give her the respect that you would like to receive and show her that you would like the same treatment. show her that you are another woman in her life that wants nothing but the best for her and will help and be there for her anyway that you can.
then you need to ask your husband her father i presume to step in an explain to her he needs the rudeness to stop. that in his home we respect one another and listen to one another.
without his help you truly may get no where with her. and if her mother is still around tell her you don't want to take her place you are just trying to be a great friend and confidant for her daughter, and maybe she will talk to her.
good luck!
2006-06-15 09:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by jcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is living under the same roof and you and her father, then she needs to follow the rules. If she is over 18 and doesn't like it then she is free to move out. Even though you are a step-parent, you are still there in that house in a parental capacity. I would suggest that her father sit down with her and lay the law down and let her know who is in charge there.
2006-06-15 09:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My neice has just left home because she was not treated as equal as her stepsisters. Very sad. Can you honestly say that you are and always have been fair to her. I am not judging you, just giving you food for thought.
2006-06-15 09:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call up Eric Cartman
2006-06-15 09:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by help mesa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends, if she is of age, tell her either she listens, or she gets out... talk to her father first.. remind her, that even if your not her real mom, its still your house and your rule's apply...
2006-06-15 09:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by scott m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋