How do you get your husband to do chores and do nice things for you without him feeling nagged?

Answer 1

Give him sex first ,then ask him after....

Answer 2

When someone has a logical answer to this question, please let me know. I have been with a guy that I am now engaged to and love very much, but I am in the same situation. After much nagging, he will do something, but why should it take that? I need an answer to the same question but that applies to children, ages 10 and 12. Getting them to pick stuff up after themselves is an ongoing fight. Both my fiancee and I work so I feel that it should be all of our responsibilities to keep the house clean. The kids are old enough as well to pick up after themselves and help out with chores around the house. How does anyone get this to happen with the man and kids? Sometimes making a chart of all the chores that need to be done and assigning each person to a chore each day works well.

Answer 3

The two of you have to approach running your household as a team. There are things he's able to do, as well as things you are able to do. Perhaps, many of the things you both can do together.
There's nothing I like more than in the fall when me and my wife take the kids outside and spend the day raking leaves. Sure, it is work, but we make a day of it. We eat a big breakfast, take a break for hot chocolate, and after dinner at night, when all of the hard work is done and the kids are washed, we gather together and either play or board game or watch a movie.
If you are both motivated to get things done around the house because they have to get done, and not because it is a "man's job" or a "woman's job", or because one spouse demands that the other spouse must do it, it takes the pressure off and you begin to work as a team. Make the big jobs fun, or celebrate when they are finished. Encourage your husband by telling him how much you appreciate him. In turn, he will appreciate this better than being handed the dreaded "Honey Do" list (Honey, do this, Honey, do that...).
The bottom line is you both live in the house, things have to get done, and it is handled better with the mutual understanding that you are both in it together. You both have a stake in handling the bills, the kids, and the leaky roof, but no one is the boss. Work together, and you'll stay together. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Make a list together of his responsibilities and your responsibilities. Put the list in a place where both can be seen. Then either of you can go to the list at any time, and as if the other has done his/her responsibilities. It's fair that way.

So often, it's easy for women who stay home to fall into the trap of, "I'm home all day, I'm always at work..." but they forget that, while they're at home, they get to more-or-less make their own schedule. I sure wish I could change my daily routine to match the soap operas I wanted to watch. (Not that I would, and not that my wife does, but I sometimes envy that my wife has that option.)

For men, it's easy to forget that, even though you don't see her slaving away in the kitchen doesn't mean getting dinner ready by the time he's home is easy. Somewhere in the back of his mind, he imagines that his wife is sitting in front of the TV, reading a book, or playing computer all day, until about an hour before he comes home, then does a whirlwind of work cooking and cleaning, and then as soon as he gets home starts nagging about how he never does anything. It's not the way it is, and the logical part of his mind knows that, but until you see it spelled out, it's hard to get the heart to remember it.

But when you have the responsibilities of both parties laid out, it's easy to see who is doing more, and who's getting more done. (Not always the same person.) If you decide to itemize your household work (cooking as separate from cleaning as separate from dishes) then itemize his job functions and duties as well. Fair is fair. If you work outside the home, and itemize your household chores, itemize your work responsibilities as well as his and all the housework.

Answer 5

If you have a decent, thoughtful, mature husband he will do his share of the chores without asking. If he doesn't, go ahead and nag him!! It may not help because he may be immature and uncaring. But nag him anyway. He needs to grow up!

Answer 6

First of all, do you work? Or are you at home all day. If it is the latter, then you should do all the home crap. That is your job. Welcome to life.

If it is the former, then stop expecting so much out of your man. Just live and be nice to HIM. Why does everyone WAIT for others to give them respect before getting respect? Don't you know it works the other way around? You gotta give to get. So shut up, and get to work, and he will notice that you do a lot for the relationship, and he will help. Just back off.

Answer 7

Honey I wish i knew! men seem to think its the girls job to clean and do everything,and when you ask them to help out they say stop nagging me! the truth is men are lazy and seem to think that when they get married they'll have a slave! thats all we are to them,"mother figures" the only thing i can say is tell them that you will never stop nagging until they start helping you out a little.or leave his *** and find a real man,

Answer 8

What has worked for me is to allow him his own timeline with chores. Example:

The old me: Honey, can you take out the trash?

The new me: Honey, can you take out the trash before we go to bed tonight?

Answer 9

You have to ask him the right way..not tell/damand him to do the chores. I always joke with hubby of 12 yrs..if you help me out with this, then maybe later we can mess around!!!! LOL Its fun...men are like kids sometimes!!!

Answer 10

Dont say anything or ask as in nagging! Just take him in the bathroom and show him the leak and ask what do you thinks causeing this ,I bet you know how to stop it ........

Answer 11

Just sit down with him and explain how the mess makes you feel and ask if he can help. Works every time or invite someone over and then he'll freak out and help clean up