Why do I feel the need to ask for permison in order to do something?

Question

I made a decison but then I ask someone else's opinion.
I second guess myself.

Answer 1

This is a sign of insecurity in your decision making capabilities and processes. You're most likely a very meticulous and organized person and the fear of being wrong in your decision making leads you to seek confirmation as a support tool. If you have another persons confirmation then should your decision be incorrect you will feel less responsible because someone else was wrong with you. This doesn't change the role of responsibility however and the downside is really that in doing this should your decisions be correct you also have to share the achievement with that supporting cast. No one is right all the time and the best thing to remember is this. 'There's no such thing as a mistake unless you repeat that choice the same way again. As long as you learn from your mistakes then everything in life is a learning process'.

Answer 2

Did you ever hear of the term "buyers' remorse?" It is a feeling that plagues the real estate industry and the auto retail industry.
When people make a big decision, such as buying a home or a car, they put a lot of effort and money into the decision.
Buyers' remorse occurs after the decision or sale is made. At first you look at all the good aspects of your decision, later you start thinking about what can go wrong.
You are experiencing human nature. There is nothing wrong in second guessing yourself. It shows that you are considering the consequences of your actions.
For most people, buyers remorse goes away in time and they tend to dwell on the pluses that helped make the decision in the first place.

Answer 3

It may also be because you are a timid and shy person.Or because you don't trust your own judgement because you have made bad calls in the past.Or it might be that you're a doormat.No offense,but there you are.
Please choose a best answer, we people do it for the points.Can I trust you to make a decision.Of course,you may consult with me.To second guess you.

Answer 4

I venture to say this is related to your self-esteem, or how you feel about yourself and how competent you are.
I would suggest that personal individual counseling can help you work on those issues that are holding you back from being able to make competent decisions on your own, without advice or "permission".
Ask yourself, "Why do I need permission to make my own decisions."

Answer 5

i do the same thing... i think it is a habit or i am not really sure about something.. i have made enough mistakes and i want to try and not make anymore... we all have are reasons..maybe your parents helped you to be like that...we all use to have to get permission to do things...but just try and do the best you can... think about what you are wanting to do and the consequences of your actions...then if you do not think anything is wrong then go ahead...try to believe more in yourself....

Answer 6

because we are raised to ask questions even if it has to do with us right or wrong but yet we try to do what is right but sometimes there are others who say it is not the right thing to do so we more or less try and second guest even ourselves so we have gotten into a habit to ask permission

Answer 7

Insecurity?

Whenever you doubt yourself remember that there may be 3 or 4 people who are smarter than you, but there are 5 to 6 people that are as dumb as bricks. :D

Answer 8

I totally agree with dukalink6000. I do the same thing a lot of the time.

Answer 9

Hate to say it. Sounds like low self esteem

Answer 10

You lack confidence and need an outside opinion to help justify your answer.