2006-06-15 01:54:50 · 10 answers · asked by iambored_2287 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try to do some things to comfort him like maybe not hanging out AS MUCH with guy friends. Doesn't mean you have to completely stop hanging out with them but do more things with your b/f than you do with other guys. Little things liek that. If he wants you to change more and you don't feel comfortable doing so then don't change. He'll either get over it or the relationship will end.
2006-06-15 02:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by kmbaum2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there's nothing you really can do. I have a problem with jealousy, in fact I just placed a question about it a few days ago. I get overly jealous and act like a total spaz and my poor finace puts up with it. It's low self esteem in the person being jealous or some other issues within themselves. There really is nothing you can personally do about it. It's something they have to work out on thier own. I'm working on it and it's tough. If you really love your spouse try to be as patient as possible but also let them know that there is only so much you can take before you walk away.
2006-06-15 09:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define "overly jealous." Doesn't like you flirting with other men? I think that's understandable. Doesn't like you breathing the same air as other men? We all breathe the same air and he should get used to that. Somewhere in the middle?
I would say, first of all, don't give him a reason to be jealous. A lot of women flirt without realizing it. For example, I know a woman who is a great wife to her husband, but I actually had to pull her aside to ask her if she was looking for a way to cheat on him one time because when she would go out with him, she was always dressed like a nun, but when she would go out with her girlfriends she would dress like a hooker... and it was pretty obvious that neither was her husband's idea. After that, things leveled out a little. She hadn't thought of it that way. Another woman would make flirtatiously sexual comments to guys "just kidding around," but didn't realize how hypocritical she was being when she would bite off her boyfriend's head for even giving another girl a compliment. Think about what's happening when he gets jealous, and see if you can find a pattern.
If you can't find a pattern, talk to him about it. If that doesn't help, see someone together. A pastor, priest, or other religious leader is a good idea, but if you're not comfortable with that, a councilor is a good substitute.
2006-06-15 09:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one that thinks that when you have a spouse that is suspicious and jealous, its because THEY are actually doing things behind YOUR back and they are worried that you are like them and will do the things that they are doing.
2006-06-15 09:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reassurance, reassurance. reassurance.
Your spouse may be insecure & could use alil therapy for a low self esteem. Or maybe they just need their feelings validated.
Good Luck!!
2006-06-15 09:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by v0dou_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him/her understand that jealousness will lead to misunderstanding. And also tell them that how they are important to you.That will make them understand that they are great to you and wont interefere if you talk to somebody.
2006-06-15 09:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend has dumped me for the same reason.i don't understand the insecurities he has..don't try to explain yourself to him.as long as you don't have any other intentions, don't. be yourself.
2006-06-15 08:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by warrior is a child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave their *** and let them know I'm not putting up with it.
2006-06-15 09:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do things to reassure them that there is no need to feel this way.
2006-06-15 09:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by cwallflower32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm
2006-06-15 08:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by john 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋