i had divorce a week before and my ex still bugging me he is not leting me move on with life i m stressed and dont know how to handle things i m suffering bioplar.
need some serious advice please help me out
2006-06-15 01:37:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would ask you to move away and start a new life if you want nothing to do with him. It will be a healthier decision for both of you.
2006-06-15 01:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi sweety sorry to hear about your divorce or maybe I'm not for your sake. listen you need to learn how to move on if he is still in your life he shouldn't be an ex is an ex for a reason change your telephone number go out meet other people make a batch of new friends and if you see or if he calls you always seem as if your too busy to stay and listen to his garbage for instance if he calls and you pick up the phone say something like " oh can i call you back I'm kind of busy right now hang up dint call back and keep doing it till he gets the drift. if you see him in the street make it seem as if you have an appt. and cant be late. but dont keep giving him the time if not he going to think you still want him. the ball is in your court get caller i.d. this way you can screen your calls and if that doesn't work just be straight forward i dont care for you anymore it didn't work between you and i move on because i refuse to give it another try life is to short to be stressing over things that you have no control over. if and once you throw something in the garbage i know you dont go back for it . Good luck and be strong.
2006-06-15 08:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by gianne666@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is harrassment. Report it to the police and document all contact so it will help get some sort of order agianst him. Get to the Dr make sure your medication is right and it is working properly. Seek help from a woman's service they will help you get control back in your life you are still entitled to help re the harrassment even tho you divorced it is still spousal abuse. You may have to reloate etc but see how it goes. Carry a mobile for safety and develop a safety plan should you need to get out of your house work etc. He sounds like a jerk can see why you divorced him. My bet he was like this prior to the divorce. Unfortunately by divorcing him you have stood your ground and he dont like it, it has challenged his control over you. Seek help ASAP, get a mutual friend to direct your ex to services he requires as well
2006-06-15 08:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order on him and then tell him to stay away. You don't need this right now. Do you know a muscular man to keep him away? I'm serious. Get some kind of help ie cops, whatever don't put up with this. Get mad and really tell him off. You can do this. Just be strong. Good luck
2006-06-15 08:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number for a start. It's inconvenient for you but worth it in the long run. Change your locks also if you can. Good luck. Some exes just have a very hard time giving up and you must show him you're serious about cutting all ties.
2006-06-15 08:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me say I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. Any divorce is stressful in and of itself, regardless of the circumstances.
The first thing to do it take care of yourself. Get away, destress a bit, detoxify. Even if that is just going to work and then going home and alternately crying and meditating.
Divorce brings out the worst in people, it makes all of the neuroses we all have hundreds of times more crazy.
The best you can do is continue to focus on your emotional and physical well being. Breathe. Cry when you need to. Get angry when you need to - while being aware that you are allowed to be angry. Continue on getting by physically, minute by minute - day by day. That's the one base you can build on, taking care of you and what you need to do for your well being.
2006-06-15 08:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by DW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful for your safety.
Let him know that you need some to time to be alone. You;ll call in a few months. Suggest sports or clubs.
Talk to his famlily that you need their help.
Legal restraining order may be needed
You need a strong family support group or emotional support group.
It's time to move on and forward. Your ex is not taking this well and NEEDS to get help. Robert
2006-06-15 08:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by Robert Miller 95670 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down the date and times your ex is bothering you and you can call the police and/or file a restraining order against the ex.
2006-06-15 08:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by sandiegogal2002@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex now and should have no say so about your life. He will put stress in your life only if you allow it. Time to put your foot down and stand your ground.
2006-06-15 08:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down when he is coming over and then if he keeps doing it for like 6 months or whatever then file a restaining order on him! That is what I did!
2006-06-15 08:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋