He has the money to do it, but feared his wife might not approved. What should he do? He's been talking about this for sometime now.
2006-06-15 01:24:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I think that is a really selfish plan. This man is married and he shouldn't uproot his life, his family, his marriage because he thinks he was SUPPOSED to be a woman or he just really wants to be. If he was supposed to be a woman, he'd be one. How hurtful that would be for his wife and don't give me that "love them for who they are and what's inside" bull because that is stupid and everyone knows it. If my husband came to me and said he wanted a sex change, I'd take care of it for him.
2006-06-15 01:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by sgrjackson1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if Greg and his wife are actually together right now, it's kind of hard for him to "hide," I think. (Won't she eventually, uh, notice?) Are they separated? In any case, I'm not sure, with the recuperation time needed (both in the hospital and with post-operative care), that he could expect she would NOT know, even if they are not living together.
In the past, reputable surgeons required two or three letters from authentic psychologist stating that the surgery was required as part of treatment and that the patient had prepared for the physical change by living as the desired gender for 1-2 years. (I'm not sure what the standards are today.) Basically, they follow the "Benjamin Standards of Care" laid down to prevent any "mistakes" in this mostly irrevocable decision.
One could still fly out of the country and find an unreputable doctor, but I'm not sure why one would want to -- what you save on cost and 'lack of red tape,' you might easily pay for with unsatisfactory results.
If Greg and his wife are not separated and she has no idea of what he plans, he's got to get back to reality (kindly said). He's married and has a commitment to deal with, and his wife deserves enough respect to have him deal with her directly about something of such importance, rather than skulking behind her back. Yes, he might be in emotional anguish, but he's also got a moral responsibility to his wife because he's about to run HER through the same emotional wringer.
She "might not approve?" Well, facing her like an adult is the price you pay if you decide you might want to break off your marriage. It's painful, but she's not the one running off to get a sex change; if he feels this strongly enough that no other solution is acceptable, then he's got to suck it up and deal with life.
Most wives don't want to be married to another woman; they married a guy they trusted and loved, and expected him to stay male for the rest of their marriage; they will take this as total rejection of their past lives together, as well as a personal rejection of their own womanhood and adequacy as a woman. It's going to devastate her -- not just losing him, but the slap in the face this will be to her about her own femininity. It's unavoidable.
Regardless of whether the physical surgery is a healthy solution or not (people still debate this), Greg does not sound emotionally ready to make a wise decision, based on how you say he would like to handle it and how he is more concerned about his own feelings than anyone else's, including the people he's made lifelong commitments to.
2006-06-15 01:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem. He should also give chance to his wife to enjoy the opposite sex. He should get changed her sex also. Both would be happy and no objection woud be there.
2006-06-15 02:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously his wife is going to find out eventually.
That's a personal decision that he must decide for himself. Nobody else can answer that.
2006-06-15 01:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by Chreap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to talk to his wife about it!!!!!!!!!!!
If she really loves him she would accept him for who he...wants to be. But this WILL cause problems. She will most likely be confused and upset. So they should probably go to counseling together. He should've gone to his wife first instead of talking about to his friends or whatever.
2006-06-15 03:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by KAiT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His wife might appreciate the change.
2006-06-15 01:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by PBarnfeather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he has a wife or wants to BE the wife? Which is it?
2006-06-15 01:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by jgcii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no doctor will give him a sex change until he meets certain criteria.
one of which is to take hormones and live full time as a woman for a year.
You're either lying or he is very dumb.
tom
2006-06-15 01:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he doesn't want to be a man I suggest he be honest with his (or her) wife and let her choose if she want to be with him (or her). His attitude seems a bit selfish. He should be thinking how it will effect his family not what he wants.
2006-06-15 01:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by deniver2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋