if you've had a male friend for 15 years.....?

Question

and kissed once in a while can you continue being friends after you begin a relationship with another man.
my male friend hasn't spoke to me for 3 years after i met someone else and became a mum.

we just had the occasional kiss nothing serious. he told me he didn't want a serious relationship.

to brownsugar11- you're right we were best friends,we had so much fun together,his mum died of cancer and it brought us closer,he knew i wanted a relationship with him but he said he wasn't ready for commitment.
i feel so sad over it because i miss him and would love him to meet my daughter,but i no longer have any contact details for him,he moved and changed his number.

RISHI 143 why are you asking me if it's true,i wouldn't ask it unless it was now would i???

Answer 1

sometimes its best if they don't because the person you meet could be very jealous and not like your old male friends.

Answer 2

Well you guys made it a little more when you kissed,you were still friends but maybe he got the idea that something would come of the kisses you shared,or maybe he was in love with you the whole time,that's sad though that you don't talk anymore ,15 years is a long time,bet you guys were the best of friends!maybe he will come around.Congrats on being a wife and a mum!he was lying he did want a relationship or he wouldn't have gotten mad when you married!

Answer 3

If they haven't spoke to you in three years then probably not. Have you tried to speak to this person? Maybe they secretly were in love with you and since you moved on they felt they had lost so why make waves for you and your new family. Maybe they felt that when you are in a relationship with a family that their morals and values would not allow them to continue to be so close to you. Maybe they have met someone as well and their focus is on that relationship.

Answer 4

i was or should i say still am a friend to a woman who had the same thing happen to them,it is very hard to get that friendship back,i have not spoken or seen my friend for 3 years the same as you.it was me who moved away so she could get on in life with her husband and children.i still regret not getting in touch when i had the chance now she has moved and i do not know her address or number.its not very nice to lose a good friend.

Answer 5

Maybe its not worth getting in contact again. Chances are that there were feelings there between you before and its not worth drudging it all up again. When you meet someone after all that time if there were feelings there before then chances are those feelings will come back. Now you are married its not worth it - trust me I've been there too!

Answer 6

Easy one... Your "Friend" Loves you (or thinks he does) - by having a relationship with someone else & having a child - you've broken his heart.. You can never be a friend with someone who loves you, unless you BOTH move on - even then it can be hard.. I recently had a problem with my partner & told her that if we broke up that I couldnt be her friend - I would still love her too much & it would kill me when she found someone else - you can't have your cake and eat it!!

Answer 7

difficult one, mabey your male friend wanted a lot more than friendship, was he shy, didnt want to ruin your friendship?, i think he is just being considerate now that you have a man and a child, contact him and ask. good luk hun

Answer 8

Probably he was in love but couldn't say,thus he should not blame it on you.

Answer 9

den its not love. its just lust.
he want to have fun with u.
be carefull

Answer 10

impossible