Why is it so hard to find friends who you can trust?

Answer 1

Trust is something that comes with time. You have to know someone for a while before you can really trust them.

Answer 2

Number, one, are you trustworthy. A lot of our hangups in life and in relationships have nothing to do with other people. It is our own perception of people that we have problems with. You may already have a friend out there who you could trust if you gave them a chance. We allow things form our past like mistakes that people make or lies that someone else has told us interfere with the right now. Try this, talk to the person that you see as your best friend and let them know that you have had friends in the past that you had a hard time trusting and that you would like for him or her to finally be the one you can trust. If the friendship is that important to that person, then they are going to do everything in their power not to disappoint you. They will want to prove to you that they are better than those other, "so called friends". If this isn't the case, and you find that you just can't trust someone, anyone, maybe you need to check yourself to see what you're holding on to from the past, or what you're putting out for people to see. There are people you can trust. I have had my best friend now for 10 years and I trust her with my life and everything in it.

Clarissa
Sylva, NC

Answer 3

You don't realize who are your real friends until a few months after you have met them. They need to see pretty much everything about you in every situation. When they open up to you, then you know that they are your friends. You should learn more about the person and once you do, you'll be able to trust them.

Answer 4

friends are hard to trust because gossip runs rampant amoungst our species. Poeple like to talk about other people. I have lived in my community for 20 yeras and i have yet to find a true friend i can trust. Just like mates, good friends are hard to come by, hang in there. I will be your friend

Answer 5

It's not it's learning not to know who the right people to trust are that's hard.

Answer 6

tell me about it ,as ifits not hard enough to make friends, people wanna find people to trust too . . plus even your closest friend are hard to trust. to be honest some things are best not told even to your bestest mate . plus they all ways try and have something better .... best thing to do hun if you dont trust any one close then tell someone you dont no at all ... like me my mates always find me a good lisner but when i need to talk in return i get nothing... so if you ever need a ear ill be hear 4 u .

Answer 7

Wish I knew! it has taken me years to find a "proper" 2 friends, dont be an open book, don't let them think that you dependant on them or anyone else, (thats what I did) I'm so chatty that I think they got fed up with me, but why should I change? be your self & choose where you make your friends & what you tell them

Answer 8

alot of people already have their "friends to trust" so they won't trust you. maybe the people around you are a bit unfriendly? sometimes, it just takes time to develop a friendship from untrusting to super-trusting.

Answer 9

a true frend is not juss someone u meet today and befrend .it is someone whom u share a long history with .someone who knows u in and out.

it is not hard to find true frenz.its juss that those whom u call your frenz are not really your frenz and u tend to put too much trust in them and they end up hurting u ..your real frend is waiting for u its juss that u havent found them yet

Answer 10

I have the same problem myself.....my solution, I don't really have gfs I hand out with anymore. And if I do, I am very careful about things I say to them. You should be wary about who you bring into your life,,,,,but don't be overly cautious. Trust takes time to build and betrayal of trust is even worse.