how teen agers adjust during the difficult years of growing up?

Question

i really need to know the answer

Answer 1

Truthfully, There are so many books and so much observation on this subject for boys and girls alike.
For boys, I love the book "real Boys- The adolescent years" and for girls, "Raising Ophelia" and "Odd Girl Out "are good picks.
They are part of my house, not only for them, but for me to better understand the pains, and remember what it was like for me growing up.
I always say that I would never want to relive those years. very awkward and full of insecurities, but I promise that it is the way it's suppose to be, and it is just a step into the years for you.
The fact that you are reaching out for advice shows some strength in character for you, and character is what defines us

Answer 2

Set rules and stick by them no matter how much pleading is done, no matter how good they become for awhile (it is just temperary), be consistent with your punnishments, do not scream, use a stearn and determined voice and attitude. This is a fact with children no matter what age they are. You must start from the beginning and stick with it. They will still have to experince life. One of the hardest things in raising a child is allowing them to learn for themselves. Young people are stubborn and think that they are the only ones that know what is best for themselves. Sometimes, people outside of the home can help by talking to them. Counseling does help, but you may not see the possitive results for a long while. Just stick to what you know is right deep in your soul, do not change your mind about rules. Giving in to a young person only causes bad results and you will end up wishing you had not changed your mind. Truly listen and watch how you react and what you say. Screaming causes problems for yourself and it just iriates the young person for a little while. For you, you could end up in the hospital with high blood pressure or other ailments. If, you have someone in the family that your young one admires and respects, ask that person to help. I am a firm beleiver in families helping each other to raise a child. This does not take the responsiblity from the parent for they are the many people that need to handle the situations, but families help by backing the parent, letting the parent be aware of possible problems(YOU MUST LISTEN ), listen and then watch for possible problems, If, you are being told by others, even outside of the family, that your kids is doing something, listen and then watch closely for someone knows something you are not aware of.

Answer 3

The deal is that there isn't one universal answer for everyone; everyone grows up in their own way. There are some issues that are common to everyone who is in the process of becoming an adult, but each one experiences them in his or her own way. Each person brings their own unique response to each issue based on their previous life experiences. Keep reaching out and talking with people.

The main thing to remember is that it is hard for 99% of kids and the ones who say it's easy are probably lying to you. However, when the day comes (and it will!) when you realize what you have personally achieved by growing into an adult and becoming your own person, you will feel great!

Answer 4

Eventualy we look for answers to questions we thought didn't exist, and when we hear the answer we don't believe it, then after some time in denial... we come to face the truth.

Answer 5

there's nothing difficult in growing up...it's nature's process
teenagers don't have to adjust themselves willfully... they just happen to adjust themselves naturally..
Experience does become a natural teacher for them which shape their attitudes in the future...

Answer 6

Just grow up!!!....that's what i did!