why does everyone expect to be conned cant they give someone the Benefit of doubt?

Answer 1

well, we react on the basis of past experience, so sadly we're a skeptical culture for the reason that we have reason to be. people con each other all the time, so we learn to expect that as the norm.

you can refuse to play that game, though, obviously. and eventually, if enough people join your path, what we expect as normal will switch to kindness and respect.

nice question.

Answer 2

Some people have had bad experiences and they try to avoid repeating these experiences. If you want a person to give you the benefit of doubt, you have to show them how you can benefit them. You must realize that people have to look out for their best interests, and sometimes an offer sounds too good to be true.

Answer 3

When you consider that we are all being conned, legally, on a regular basis, by pretty much every shop, bank and even the government, its hardly surprising isn't it?

In this society reading the small print is essential although even when you know you are being conned, you are quite often forced into paying up because you are limited in your choice of service providers.

Yeah there are a variety of banks and building societies, but not one of them will do anything to help manage money, and every one will apply charges when they know you have no money.

Answer 4

Trust is earned not a right. If a friend asks me to lend them money they have more chance of getting it than a stranger ... same goes for going along with any request.

As with everything else you need to do a quick internal risk assessment rather than just go with trust or dismissal. If someone asks you use your mobile and wont let you dial the number or looks like they are capable of running off with it then don't let them ... if its an old lady who needs a taxi then fair enough.

Peace out

Answer 5

Depends on what you are trying to sell, doesn't it?

Yeah, I give people the benefit of doubt. Right until I have to pull my wallet out.

So, what was this question about? Giving you the benefit of doubt here...

Answer 6

I don't feel that way at all. In my book, everyone is assumed to be trusted unless they show evidence of dishonesty.

Answer 7

THERE ARE TOO MANY COWBOYS OUT THER AND ITS BEST TO GET A CHECK FROM SOMBODY YOU KNOW BEFORE YOU USE THEM IVE HAD GOOD RESULTS AND IT SAVED ME A LOT OF MONEY THE LAST CHAP I HAD DOING WORK FOR ME WAS GOOD I PAID HIM A EXTRA £50 FOR A DRINK BECAUSE HE SAVED ME A LOT OF MONEY AND HE KNOWS I WILL PASS HIS NAME ON.