A few days ago, my father died and now, I'm either angry or sad or I want to believe that I'm fine. I'm trying to help with the funeral and my sister seems to be dismissive. When I left the house, I thought that I was fine but I end up looking at men that looks to be around my father's age and if they're doing something like smoking (one guy was drinking beer out of a paper bag in the doorway of a church), I think that that man or those men should be the one that is gone instead of my father. Is this normal?
2006-06-14 22:45:25 · 11 answers · asked by Nicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My grandfather passed away few days ago and I know just how you feel. Whatever you do seems wrong and you haven t realise what happened yet. I feel the same way. When my uncle died I also used to see him in so many men, but as time passed it also passed. Although even today sometimes I have a feeling that it s him on the other side of the street and that he s watching me. And of course he does. Maybe he is not that close and maybe I cannot really see him, but I feel he is here.
We have to believe even if you are not religious that one day we will all be together again. If it wouldn t be like that what would be the point?
I really hope I could help, write me anytime..
2006-06-14 22:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by HarMonia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best advice to offer in this situation is to find peace and come to terms with what has happened. My father passed a way when I was 14 years old. I did not get a chance to do a lot of things that some people take for granted. It may seem hard now, but your father still lives inside of you, and whenever you feel sad or depressed try to find a memory of your father that makes you smile or happy and focus on the good times that you had.
2006-06-15 05:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by thomastl614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathise with you as I know what your going through.Its been over 13 yrs now that my mum passed away & i still ask the big question Y, y my mum,she didnt drink,smoke or do anything illegal.Just go with the emotions & if you need anyone to talk to then see a councellor because they really help & know how to deal with it.Im really sorry for you & hope time heals some of your grief
I was once told that god only took the good people thats why he takes someone so close to us
heres a big hug for you & kisses too
2006-06-15 06:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by cowboys4lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just think, how their addiction is going to make them suffer in the future, they need your sympathy not your hate; Your father went peacefully and you should be happy for that at least. Sure you will miss him forever, but young man, Death is a part of our destiny, it is not something to be afraid of or hate, it takes from us always those we love at some time or the other. Nothing will change this.
You should remember your fathers words and wishes and what ever you do in life make sure he would be proud of your decisions. Don't worry about your sister, she is coping in her own way because of the loss.
I am sorry for your loss.
2006-06-15 05:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the relationship you had with that person. Some people have died and I thought I couldn't live another day. Then some others, I've sat thru te whole funeral and didn't cry. So it really depends on the relationship you had with that person. I am sorry for your lost.
2006-06-15 05:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by goodfowlkes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh im sorry to know that. but frnd dont worry, where there is a will ther is a way. Ya its normal. but u need to ignore and move onwith ur life
2006-06-15 05:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by krishsag@gamil.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have a new appreciation for life and upset he is gone. but its done move on and take charge of those emotions and don't let them run you. and rebuke the grief spirit that will try to pull you down to despair. you miss him it is ok but time to live
2006-06-15 05:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about the loss of your farther, I lost my farther back in 1994. I know what your going through. your going to go through all of
the emotions. thats normal.
2006-06-15 05:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by Robert G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is the first stage of mourning and will pass to be replaced by something else,just be braveand good luck
2006-06-15 05:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are normal sweety!i feel sorry for you.you need counseling
2006-06-15 05:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by ferodza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋