it seems as though in most situations women use the children or child support as their way of getting even , i would love to get a womens perspective on this one.......??..........
2006-06-14 21:13:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some women do do that.. And I would like to sincerely apologize for that. We are not all the same..
However, I think that the children are your children too. And just because you and the mother no longer are in a relationship. Your obligations and love should remain in effect..
HOWEVER, Now let me add that I think no way you should pay alimony (unless there is a disability) AND ,I think that the spouse receiving the spousal support should be made to explain, with the receipts, as to where the money went and who it was spent on..
I think that the courts do NOT do enough for the fathers rights . It isn`t fair to cut a daddy out of the child's life it isn`t fair to the child or the Dad.. A child needs it`s Daddy.
But , NOT the daddy who doesn`t contribute (if possible) to the welfare and care of their children. It you don`t help take care of the child you obviously have MORE IMPORTANT things to do with your money than taking care of your child.. You don`t have rights to something you don`t take care of. And by taking care of I mean, Mentally, physically and monetarily.. You know, still be a Daddy...
God bless & hugs from Texas. {:-)
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2006-06-14 21:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by jaantoo1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well. let me tell you something as a man. I'm sure all guys feel like this. hey bud, YOU can't raise a child on what a guys pays. You think so? You try it. Why are 75%+ single women on Gov Aid?
If these are your kids, why would money for the kids be a issue?
I understand your frustration. You simply have your eyes focused in the wrong place.
Just a word of advise. I didn't read this in a book.
Keep in mind. NO woman is going to take you for a ride. Courts have "set" amouts to pay. I don't care who she has for a Lawyer. unless YOU really messed up bad, she can't get more than what the court has Chartered.
Women use the kids as a weapon BEFORE the divorce. They scare most guys to death. lmao Some guys are dumb and buy into it. lol
2006-06-15 04:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by Fish Bait 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Often there is overreacting on both sides.
If the woman's intention is the very best: let's say. She would want to be sure that she and the kid(s) are provided for. Since the kids does have a father and he will not be living with them any longer - is it allright that he provides for his children and make their mother able to give them a decent life? If the parents are grownups and wants the best for their kids, they will do what's in their power to do this without fights. What do you think?
If the woman's intention isn't the very best. Say the father cheated on her, so she might want to "get even" as you say. She use different arguments to force the father to pay - you see: it's for the same purpose, but the means differ. She might be so cruel as to move to another part of the country and in this way prevent the father from seing his kids. Yeah, that is not very allright at all. Not for anyone.
Either way - the children didn't deserve this. They deserve time with both parents, they deserve an economical and physical/psycological environment to grow up in. This means that both parents will have to provide.
On the contrary: Why is it that fathers doesn't like to pay child-support?
2006-06-15 04:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are thoughtless and hurt and maybe kids are the only thing they have left from the marriage to hold onto. Its terrible for the child..parents just need to grow up. You can tell how selfish they are when they act this way. If they were good parents..you wouldnt even know about this.
2006-06-15 04:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by spurdom28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard from a person with experience on this, "Be good to your wife, so she can be good to your kids". It is more true than you realize, because when the man is gone, the wife takes her frustrations out on the kids.
I know most women are not like this, but I remeber this well, and I can say it is true.
2006-06-15 04:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they gave birth to the child so it is their maternal instinct to protect it, right? Plus, it might be a subconsious reaction. If they are mentally upset with the husband, then they may not want the same thing to happen to the kids so the try to protect them without realizing it?
2006-06-15 04:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by cuttie_demon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bcos the women who indeed in a very bad experience in her married life,expects a person for some condolence and sharing her feelings.No wonder if that it is a blood relationship.
2006-06-15 04:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are bitter, or feel the only control they have is like that.it is sad when one parent uses the child, and i think they shouldnt have the child in that instance
2006-06-15 04:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women often think about only themselves, and have no disregard about other people's feelings.
2006-06-15 04:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by paintball814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a fair not all women
2006-06-15 04:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by aleem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋