My wife told me she did not love me any more and that she was falling in love with some one she met on the internet. She told this guy she was falling in love with him and did heavy flirting which I found out by getting it out of her, I don't even know if she told me the whole truth. Now she wants to give it another shot should I chance it?
2006-06-14 20:33:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope. Once someone states that the love is gone..Well that's just it.
Move on, and get someone who deserves you :)
Best of luck
2006-06-14 20:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person starts searching like she did with the Internet, there might be something that she feels she is lacking in your relationship with her. Guys can be pretty charming on line, and can say things that can turn a woman's head. She made a mistake yes, but its pretty bad when she states to you that she doesn't love you anymore. You both sound like you have been hurt pretty bad and maybe you two should go to a marriage counselor in order to resolve the issues at hand. If you just forgive her and get on with life, you will never find out what happened in your relationship to make her feel she needed to converse with some other man. History will then repeat itself, and you will be less likely to forgive her then.
2006-06-14 21:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by cabbiegrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a few things.
Is she broken about what she has done?
Does she know why she feels the love is gone with you?
Is she willing to work on that?
What steps has she made to get rid of the internet fling?
Are you both christians?
Is she willing to go to christian counseling?
I would give her the chance, but keep your distance, and let her prove to you through her actions that she is sincere as long as the answers to the above questions warrant such a decision.
2006-06-14 20:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by phyziczteacher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont chance it. It is clear she wasnt even going to tell you about the other guy. If she wanted to be with you, she would not have found someone else. It looks like she sees you as a security blanket when things arent going her way. Find someone who TRULY cares about you, She told you she didnt love you and that should have been the signal for you to send her on her way with divorce papers signed.
2006-06-14 20:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by greencheetah2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because it was over the internet not in real life and either way every one deserves a second chance like if I were her if I found out that you were telling all your buisness over the internet I would be ferious and leave before you make your desision but every one needs a second chance and look atit on the bright sid aleast she wasnt sleeping with him!!
2006-06-14 20:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by BuBbL3Zz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhhh.... is that internet thing over?
Even if it is, sounds like you two have issues to resolve. She might be wanting to get back with you because she needs to be with someone, and that's not a good reson to be with YOU. Sheneeds to wanto to be with YOU, and not use you as a temporary thing 'till she finds someone else.
I say - give her a second chance after resolving your problems. Don't just take her back without going through some kind of process like therapy or something.
2006-06-14 20:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still love her?
If you do give her a chance, every one makes mistakes
Maybe she has learned that the grass is not always greener on the other side.
However you all need to change your lifestyle a bit, start doing things together rather than letting her spend the evenings on the computer.....
2006-06-14 20:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you enjoy the evil games she's playing. It'll never stop. The insanity will continue one way or another until you get strong will power and leave. You don't need a love relationship to survive on this planet.
2006-06-14 20:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by autumn leaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give her another chance. Internet flings are very common now a days. She must have realized her mistake and feels sorry for it. There is nothing wrong in forgiving someone who is your dear wife.
2006-06-14 20:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by Bolan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes take her back and try to work on and save the marriage if at all possible... Is she really and truley sorry and remorseful or did he just dump her and she is coming to you because of that and she is hurt. Talk with her and seek counseling and help for your marriage and she needs to go to marriage counseling with you.... If for some reason she does this again or cheats on you down the road later then separate!
2006-06-15 01:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is he seem to have been bored with reality and fallen in love with fantasy. Please make her understand that fantasy has to end the way night ends in to day. And nights are meant to relax and reorganize our thought process to face the reality next day. fantasy sure adds spice but ends up in to faded obscurity. If she really thinks that someone she never met at all and understand not his temperament in adversity as a person.... then she is willingly becoming a loser. Please be patient and love her like a child who lost her way in to wilderness. please give her a chance.... But only once.....
2006-06-14 20:47:19 · answer #11 · answered by cheenuray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋