my mom wants my step dad to walk me and my grandmother wants my dad to walk me and both say they won't show up if their choice isn't picked......I can't stand my dad to tell yout he truth I am not sure if I even want him at the wedding, and why should my step dad he hasn't done all that much 4 me, we aren't that close, I want my uncle to walk me down the asile, but what about my mom and grandma's feelings?
2006-06-14 20:13:12 · 13 answers · asked by crazysxykoolgrl8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How about a comprosmise? Have your dad walk you 1/3 way, your step dad 1/3 way and your uncle walk you to the altar. You can also have all three say that they give your hand in marriage. good luck
2006-06-14 20:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, and unless you get divorced and remarried, it is likely to be the only one you'll ever have. So you do what makes YOU happy, not mom, not grandma, they aren't the ones getting married. Looking back on the situation 10 years from now, what would have made you happiest? If you want your uncle to walk you then go with your uncle, or don't have anyone walk you at all, that way no one can say you picked "favorites".
2006-06-14 20:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding is your day and folks should respect your choices. You could have both your dad and stepdad walk you together down the aisle. Or have one walk you half way and the other the rest of the way. When the minister asks, "Who gives this woman in marriage?" they can say her family and I. If you want your uncle to walk you down the aisle and neither your stepfather or father, be sure to talk to them about it first. You could also have your mom or grandma instead of you chose. It is ultimately your choice and all family members should respect and support your decision for your special day. If they choose not to come, you can't change their minds, but it will help to communicate with them prior to the wedding and let them know that you want them to be there.
2006-06-14 20:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jules 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pick who you want to walk you downg the aisle... It should be your choice and who you pick. Have your uncle do it then. There is nothing wrong with that ...... talk to your mom and grandma and tell them how you feel and why and if they choose not to understand that is ok. Do what you want as it is your wedding and your memories!
2006-06-15 01:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. If you dont do what YOU want to do at your wedding...you will regret it for the rest of your life. There will always be a time when you will look back and wonder why you didnt choose...or why you chose... You have to make this day yours. Dont worry about no one else except you and your fiance'. The rest of them will step back and understand, and if they dont, then you dont want them there to begin with.
2006-06-14 20:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by bmhk7925 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your real dad should walk you down the aisle maybe this can be his second chance,to make things up to you remember parents are not given a manuel at the hospital on how to do the right things all of the time maybe he will be a better grandfather to your kids..
2006-06-14 20:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding.. It should be the happiest day of your life. Pick who you want.. your mom and grandma need to understand that it is your choice. They might be more understanding than you think...
2006-06-14 20:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem. go with your heart. i wanted my stepdad but my real dad did. i also had to hand out invites saying on card. i would like you there to share my special day. but remember its my special day and if you cant come and be nice to my guest then maybe you should stay away. i plan to do this 1 time and i want you there to enjoy it with me not ruin it for me.( my parents were at war and hated each other. but they did it for me) im sure if you ask they will for you. enjoy and god bless you. hope your blessed with many years of happiness
2006-06-15 03:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know this it is your wedding not your family members do what makes you happy, remember it is your day, don't worry about other people if they are using that against you then let them not go to you wedding.
2006-06-14 20:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your big day not theres, do what you want, even a brother or your mother could walk you down the aisle too. its up to you. good luck
2006-06-14 20:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by nis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋