We have talked about marriage alot and we both seem to be on the same page. He says it's financial but he makes $100k+ yr. Is he just looking for excuses?
2006-06-14 19:36:13 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am in the same boat honey, i donno what the big deal is financially, as if they have to have that burden all on their own it's called a partnership for a reason....
2006-06-14 19:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 04:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by ridinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't be in a hurry to get married if you are already living together. if you are fairly young, it really isn't worth getting worked up about. If you are getting close to say 27 or so, you might want to do research into having children and the complications of being an older mom.... i wouldn't have children until marriage..cause if he is not sure of your shared future, then you dont want to bring children into the picture... i would give him all the time to "get ready" that he wants but also you must take into consideration the ticking biological clock as well.. i would never pressure him, this would just cause problems later.. but be clear of any plans for children... age does matter... i am by no means an expert.. just a divorced mother of 3... good luck
2006-06-14 19:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by mullikindonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, have you been sitting around all this time waiting for someone to put a ring on your finger? Or do you genuinely just love him and want to be with him period? Why do you have to get married for it not to be a "lost cause" as you put it? Some of the best and longest lasting relationships are between couples that never marry at all, but instead just act as a married couple would. Sometimes marriage just screws things up anyway. it can put a lot of unnecessary pressure and frustrations on a relationship.
2006-06-14 19:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by Barely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello...it's me an old lady who believes in the old saying...." why buy a cow if you can get your milk free".....your bf is enjoying a free ride living with you and I'm sure there are many relationships just like yours....also I've read that when couples live together without being married the men are usually more possessive and sometimes violent...I can't prove it but it's what I've read.....so turn the page and get on with your life if he seems to be stuck in neutral....best of luck..take care and be safe....
2006-06-14 19:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhmm...yeah that's only an excuse....if he thinks that marriage perse will make a lot of difference in your relationship, well tell him it's a wrong notion....you are practically living like husband & wife....without the legalities of course....maybe he's not ready(?) wow! when will he be ready, when you're both old & grey?....or he's just a commitment freak, oops sorry....i just don't get it.....i think he loves you enough to stay with you after all these years..
try to talk to him, girl.....lay all your cards and see where you stand....if nothing comes up with it.....but ---1) you still want to continue living with him....then it's alright as long as you are happy, that is what is important.....2) now, if you want more than this gf+bf relationship, it's time to assess what's important to you then act on it...move on w/o him if you have to...
yeah it's hard, but all wounds heal.....use discernment & love yourself more!
2006-06-14 19:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of it is that you already live with him. Why risk turning his 100k+ a year into 50k+ a year. Are you taking his last name, do you plan on having kids? Ask yourself, if you're already in a commited relationship on the path to growing old with each other, what benefit does marriage really have for him?
Offer to sign a pre-nup (assuming you're willing to sign one), see if he bites.
2006-06-14 20:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it. Maybe its time to sit him down and tell him you are tired of being a girlfriend and want to be his wife. If he doesn't want the same thing (and within the next year), then tell you now so you can find your husband. No point wasting years on a guy that just has you around for sex.
2006-06-14 19:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what point in his life he is, maybe he´s not really mature or is afraid of commitment in that sense... there are so many different things to look at... could be that he doesnt want to marry you cause he´s unsure, or he´s unsure he´s ready to take that step cause he´s afraid. e him open up about his feelings on marriage, his parent´s marriage, his parent´s financial state when he was a kid... maybe there´s a strong fear behind all this
2006-06-14 19:44:24 · answer #9 · answered by Ooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like he's just using you for physical needs for as long as it takes. I wouldn't bet that he would want to marry,if he really did he'd propose a long time ago,the norm for a decent life oriented mature husband material guy to propose to you would be within a year to two years of knowing one another.Don't waste your time with him he's a joke.
2006-06-14 19:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by I-C-U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,ask him if he plans on making an honest woman out of you?tell him why would you buy the cow if you get the milk for free?i would give him 6 months from today and if he doesnt ask you i would move on but first start looking out for yourself,start saving some of his money,go shopping by yourself tell him you spent 200.00 at the grocery store only spend a100,and stash the rest.goodluck
2006-06-14 19:55:32 · answer #11 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋