He bought me a ring w/ diamonds on it for christmas and told me to wear it on my left hand but says it's not an enagement ring, or a promise ring, it's an "I love you ring"...He says he wants to wait until he can buy a house...but come on, I am ready to live with him and we already have that comitted relationship it's time to move to the next step...If it's a house he's worried about he has a 2 bedroom apt, we can get enagaged and save for the house 2gether... How can I get him to see the light???
2006-06-14 19:33:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Propose to him.
2006-06-14 19:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by chia_vampire 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no way you will change his mind. He wants to marry you its obvious. But as with everyone, he has probably had a goal since he was little to buy a house on his own and get himself set up before making any major commitments. Plus if you wait a little longer, he will have more money for the actual wedding and buy you an even bigger diamond ring!
2006-06-15 02:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you get him to see the light?
Will you EVER get him to see the light?
It's been four years and I bet you were ready for him to commit to you since three and a half years ago. What are YOU waiting for?
Tell him your feelings and let him know you don't need a house for a commitment. And tell him, If you don't get the commitment from him, you're giving up on him. (Set a time you feel comfortable with, by winter or something)
If he won't consider your feelings on the subject and compromise, you'd be better off with someone who will.
Maybe a little adversity is what is needed to get this ball rolling. In any case, start the ball rolling and get on with your life, with him or with out him.
2006-06-22 01:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ken C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. He doesn't want to marry you.
It's pretty simple, really. If a guy wants to marry you, he'll be marrying you. Oh, he might have a reasonable and realistic goal that you could agree on - "we need to have enough money to live on first" - but "until I can buy a house" is absurd.
This guy is enjoying the emotional bond, the intimacy and companionship, and (I assume) the sex. He doesn't see any need to make things all sticky and inconvenient with a wedding ring.
Best of luck to you, and God bless.
2006-06-15 02:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by bobhayes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not ready, he's not ready, i say don't pop the question. People do things for a reason, maybe he feels he doesn't have enough to offer.
2006-06-15 02:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously isn't ready, and if you push the issue, then you will lose him.
2006-06-15 02:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋