I need tips on how to come out to my parents?

Answer 1

Just be open and honest and with them and remember to be patient with them. Even if they dont agree with you sexuality remember their still your parents and they still love you. Here's a link to PFLAG's website, you can contact them through that and they're really goat providing support for you and your parents.
http://www.pflag.org/

Answer 2

well, here's what i say (sorry if i repeat something!) anyhow, just skimming through the other responses, i agree that you need to just be straighforward. plan it. i planned what i was going to say, and then said it over and over. "i'm bi." that's all i said. but it was hard!!! haha trust me, it will be hard, but it's a lot better than going "ummm" for about ten minutes. this will only irritate them.

now, after you tell them, don't expect everything to be all peachy. i, personally, was very lucky in having understanding parents. the most important things to let them know right away are:

(1) you being gay/bi wasn't their fault, your fault, or anyone's fault. it's just like that, and no one could (or can) do anything to change it.

(2) you are still the same person, and their son. you still love them, and they should still love you.

i wish you the absoulte best luck! if you'd like to talk about anything else, just send me a message.


PS uhh, i just read one of the earlier answers. just a hint, do NOT bring your boyfriend when you tell them. i actually was going to, but just think of what would happen if they didn't take the news well! and if your boyfriend isn't out, you'd kind of be exposing him to people before he was ready himself. plus, it's really a matter between you and your parents, so tell them, and then if all goes well, bring home your boy.

Answer 3

Be honest and patient with them. If they have prejudice against gays or you think they would not appreciate that you are gay, make sure they realize that you are no different to them now than before you told them except that they know you are gay now. hopefully the didn't fantasize about a "straight" marriage...if they id that might take some time to adjust too. If tehy ask how you know you are gay, reply, "How do you know you are heterosexual?" Hopefully they will get the picture. jsut be as patiet as you can. But i agree with the otehrs, you might want to arrange to stay somewhere for a little bit.

Answer 4

their is no way to ease the shock, just tell them mom dad I am gay, there is nothing wrong with being gay, you should be proud, be brave, it will feel like the time you had to tell them you were expelled from school or you wrecked the car. I hope they say to you something like we knew, or hey okay. I know this is going to sound goofy, but pretend I am standing in the room with you,with my hand on your shoulder. I am there for support, and no matter what they say or do, I will be there for you. Sometimes we just have to do things that are not pleasant. Try to be understanding with them, but maybe you should make arrangements to stay at a friends house for awhile after you tell them. No matter what they say, start and end the conversation with the words I love you.

Answer 5

there really isn't an easy way to come out. i was so damn nervous when i told my parents and i knew that it wouldn't effect my relationship with them. i had it lucky. i would say the best way to do it is to be straight forward about it. don't make a big deal about it, at the end of the day it has very little to do with who you are. or you can sit them down and tell them you have cancer and when they get all upset and emotional just go "i'm just kidding, i'm gay" and they should be releived! [that last one was a joke]

Answer 6

you need to be really sure that you wanna come out first...then you have to prepare the field....see how your parents react towards gay people....and regardless the reaction , tell them your gay.....but i guess it would help to know some1 is there for you therefore first make sure you have a place to sleep tonight before you tell your parents......i guess you could make them think that you might be gay first....give them little hints....but eventually you will have to tell them "i'm gay" , you should know your parents better than we do ......so think of how badly they can take in bad news (which doesnt need to be bad news/depends on how they see it) if you tell them in a str8 forward kinda way or if you tell them in a slower, more gentle way :)....no matter the reaction you shouldnt care....if they love you they will accpet you :)

Answer 7

As some have said here and on other sililar questions just come right out and tell them. Tell them with pride, do not show uncertainty for that will give them a chance to change your mind.

Answer 8

Just tell them. There is no "easy" way. I'm a lesbian. The longer you wait the more problems you will cause for yourself. Be prepared for a nasty reaction. You might wish to make other arrangements for a place to stay for a few days, or even the rest of your life.

Answer 9

Again, I'll recommend the book, A Place at the Table. This time I'll suggest you read it, then have it available for them to read.
When I told my parents (my mom baptized Catholic and my dad raised Southern Baptist, they weren't upset, rather they said, "Ehh, we had a hunch.")
Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

Bless your heart, hunny....I feel for you. I'm not out to my parents either. Probably never will be. I truely ADMIRE you for taking the steps to do this.