My wife cheated me while we were boy and girl friends. She apologize me and we kept our relation and married some two years ago. But I am still thinking about the guy that she had relation. Is it normal? Besides, before we had sex while we were boy and girl friends she told me that she was virgin but she was not; i.e. she cheated me twice
2006-06-14 19:28:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it's difficult to forget infidelity, even if we've forgiven. That's mostly human nature. Chances are you're always going to have a hard time with it, unless you just let it go.
And if she continues to cheat.
Good luck!
2006-06-14 19:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by iniyaitza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah well if there were some trust issues before the marriage this may carry on into the marriage which it obviously has with you still doubting. You guys should try and talk about it and move on together otherwise it won't be a very happy one if your always thinking is she going to do any thing to me again which i think is very normal. These are the kind of things which would have been sorted out had you had pre marital councelling...
2006-06-15 02:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your feelings are totally normal. It is difficult to sit and imagine that another man was inside your woman. She cheated twice while you were boyfriend and girlfriend. That says a lot about her level of commitment and devotion. However, if you married her, you obviously forgave her for her past infidelities. Therefore, for the sake of your mental health, you need to let it go. But, if that ho cheats on you again, you drop her!
2006-06-15 02:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coz you have not truly forget her past. You still can't accept the truth that she lose her virginity to other guy. But if she had choose to marry you and did not contact with the other guy, why not just forgive her?? If you truly love her, you can do it. But if she cheated you after marriage, then you gotta think twice......
2006-06-15 02:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always have hard times in your life if you do not trust your wife or if you feel that she's not sincere..... there are only two options...1)talk to your wife Wat's bothering u, forgive and forget... 2) Get separated... Go for the first option....
2006-06-15 02:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by checkin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only normal that you think about it because you have unresolved issues with it.
You need to find out what it is that you feel unresolved about and deal with it. Otherwise, it will eat you up and probably end up being the demise of your marriage.
Once you deal with it and come to terms with it, and your marriage is solid, it will become a distant memory.
2006-06-15 04:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by phyziczteacher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal but you need to let the past be the past and move on! Go to counseling if need be and get past this with time. Forgive her and let it go. This was before you were married.
2006-06-15 06:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it. In my opinion anyone in your position would be thinking the way you are. You both need to sit down together and talk about whats bothering you. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you want her to be upfront and honest with you about everything about her. In the end things will sort themselves out.
2006-06-15 02:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by onegirl2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU WANT A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR WIFE LET IT GO IF YOU FORGAVE HER AND MARRIED HER THEN GIVE IT UP ALREADY LOOK TOWARDS THE FUTURE AND NOT THE PAST
2006-06-15 02:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by samm5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋