Please read carefully before you answer, I got a friend, she is a very good friend of mine. One day she introduced me to her best friend, while chatting. After few days that guy went to UK for studies and we turned to be very good friends later on NET and Phone. One day that guy told me that he got a brain tumuor, and around one week ago he told me his operations were not successful and now he got only two months to live. He won't be coming back to India back, and i never met him. I do not have that much money that i can fly to UK from him. I really love my friend and want to meet him but i know its not possible. Next week one of his other friend is going to UK to meet him, i want to send some gift for him. Can you suggest me what can be the best gift to console him and also to sympthaies him. Thank you so much in advance.
2006-06-14 19:14:30 · 8 answers · asked by Mohit Madaan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all,I understand how helpless u are feeling but face it as that's how life is.It always takes away from u ur loved ones.At this point of time, sympathy alone doesn't work.U can try the following,apart from sending him some gifts and e-mailing/chating with him, u can sned to him loads of handwritten letters(i say so coz sometimes even the handwriting of ur loved one eases ur pain). In those letters write lots of good things which will make him feel a bit normal.Take care not to write things which make him feel more sad.If u wish to u can sit together with that girl who introduced him to u and get more ideas of what to write.Write things in such a manner that he will get atleast 80% engrossed in the matter u've written.Let him feel as if he is like u all, having a lot of time to live and enjoy.I know its hard to do it but not impossible.And please tell the person going to meet him the same ,i.e, make him enjoy these two months of his life as he has not done till now,hope u understand what i mean.Don't give him time to think how less a time he's got to live.That must be ur aim though u can't go to meet him.If u/that girl r close to his parents, then please tell them to pretend to be happy for his sake,as this is very important.Well, I hope I could be of some help to u. And don't worry he definitely knows how much u love him and according to me u r his ture friend too.I know ,these 2 months are going to be very tough for u but u have to face it.I never had a true friend but I sure can imagine how it is when u lose one.
Wishing u& ur friend suffering in UK all the courage u need.
ur friend priti.
2006-06-14 21:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by asp 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry about your friend. I bet you've read that a lot. On to the question.... A friend of mine took ill and went to the hospital. She was there for quite a while and it was soon clear that she would not be coming home. Because I knew her well, and she spoke so longingly about being outside, I took her a glass jar with a lid screwed on tight. I had filled it with all the love, sunshine and scents of summer. She loved it! She passed on a few days later. It was just an empty glass jar with a lid but the symbol of what it held was important to her. What is important to your friend and you? That is what you send.
2006-06-15 08:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by ladymudduck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that ur friends life is going to end soon. But it will hurt him if he knows that u have sympathy for him. Rather than that just clikc ur latest pic and attatch it on a beautiful Greeting card with meaningful friendly wordings which may express him ur feelings for him. It will make him feel the sky. Make him feel special. Let him know that u Love him so much that you cant live without him. And spread as much smile as u can so that rest of his life he lives with happiness and smiles.
2006-06-15 07:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by in_searchof_truefriends 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear bout your friend.
is there any way at all you could borrow the money from a friend,family member or even the bank. if there is i would do that and fly and met him. if not i would get a really nice card put a picture of you in it with your arms out and say this is the only way that you can give him a hug. also find out what he really likes or if there is anything that he would like to do before he goes (jumping out of a plane, bungie jumping) something like that and give the money to your friend who is going to see him and get them to take him.
Make sure you get photos or something of him doing it.
2006-06-15 02:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him something simple that you pick out for him. It doesn't matter what. Include a card that explains how much you have enjoyed and valued his friendship and the times you've shared together. Say that he's made a difference in your life and you're life is richer for having known him.
2006-06-15 02:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by DR. HARPOâ⢠5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps something you with your hands made,or a poem,or write all about your friendship,dont metion the obvious negatives.
All the best to your friend,and to you.
2006-06-15 02:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by PSG_30127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps something from your country, something small and easy for your friend to take.
2006-06-15 02:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him something that really shows u care about him
2006-06-15 02:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by mrsfalloutboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋