Iam 24 been married for going on 5 years he cheated on me with mutual friend who is 40 with 7 kids lives from hotel to hotel has nothing going for her. He Is also my sons father I work come home to be a house wife but he still did this I don't understand
2006-06-14 19:08:57 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Two options:
You can deepen your relationship with this man - if he also wants to, that is. Do familytherapy and talk it all through. He must listen to what this did to you, and how you feel. This might be the best solution for your boy, and it might be good for you too. You will not know whether he will cheat on you again, you will have to trust him. Some times getting past this sort of crisis will strengthen you both, and give you both a greater perspective on life. It will be deeper and not superficial.
You can leave him. It'll get tough both for you and your kid, but you will not be cheated on by him anymore. Economics and getting by in the everyday-living will strengthen you. You'll get your life on tracks and work on your relationship, making the best out of it for your kid. You might need your family to help you out, so that might be good for you too. You might meet a nice guy to connect with in the future.
Eather way, you will allways have to relate to this man being that he is the father of your son.
2006-06-14 19:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Tones 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm a man, 36 married. I don't cheat. Been marriaed over 20 years. Yeah, sure we fight about stuff and all but from what you are telling me this guy sounds like he has some serious issues. I have no idea. I guess I'd need to know more to give a better answer. I will say that cheating is not really a solution for any issue. The one time I thought about being with another woman was when my wife and I were fighting so much I felt like all I had to offer her was sadness and visa versa. Basically I thought we were screwed and I wondered how it would be with another. I never got busy with another woman. Not all men do what your husband is doing. Personally I think he has problems and is acting like a coward. What he is doing to you is rediculous and unfair to you. The world has meny men. I think men more deserving of the honor of your company. There are not meny women as patient or as understanding as you seem. If you really love him then I am sorry. I don't think he loves you very much.
2006-06-15 02:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Theo Black 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No question here!! You're entitled to more. Thank him for your (I'm sure) beautiful, talented, delightful child and move on. Why accept treatment like this when you've given him your best? It hurts, but the longer you take it, the more you'll come to believe you deserve it. Don't let your son grow up believing it's alright to treat women this way. A little pain now will save the two of you a lot more later on.
2006-06-15 02:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by proudnavymom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you really want people to answer this? People are either going to say it was because of you or because of him, and I highly doubt either route would make you feel any better or help you understand anymore than you already do. It's just something that happens, not to everyone, but to some, not by everyone but by some, and not even neccessarily for any reason in particular, sometimes it just happens. You can either accept it and move on (with or without him) or it will eat away at you more than you have to let it.
2006-06-15 02:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Barely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just who he is. If you want better then find better. He's not going to realize any time soon what an dumb *** hes being and you dont need to show him what hes missing, b/c its beneight you, you've already done the best you can it sounds like.
So, leave him and raise your standards. If you still want to make it work then just remember its easier to rehibilitate a smoker then it is to rehibilitate a cheater.
2006-06-15 02:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though i am male but feels pity that how women are being exploited all around the world. men became used to of doing what they are doing now, because they are ruling woman for centuries. between u is a child, that is a problem otherwise you should quit him in a second.
2006-06-15 02:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by buttar506 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is looking for a bit of excitement and he probably started talking and she listened like he is the most important man in the inverse. Take it from me, it is easy to get a husband but hard work to keep him.
I use to live in this fantasy world of believing our love for each other is enough to get us though anything. It's not.
MARRIAGE IS WORKING ON THE RELATIONSHIP EVERY DAY OF YOUR LIFE.
The secret is to make this "work" fun!!!!
2006-06-15 02:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honsest most men are jerks and only care about themselves. you don't deserve that it sounds like you do everything for him. just tell him you won't stand for it and if it happens again you will kick him out and he won't be aloud to see your baby. he will soon relise that his child is more important. And also stop doin things for him just worry bout yourself and your child and make him relise how much you do for him.
if this was me i would probably leave but since there is a child involved then i wouldn't. but if it happens again then get rid of his cheating ****.
2006-06-15 02:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men often feel a need for variety and a bit of danger. Its a sad fact that we are inclined to take every opportunity for sex that becomes available to us. Ask yourself if he is worth it.
2006-06-15 02:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by DramaGuy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like to me that he may be involved with crack and if this woman has 7 kids, you should be worried about you sexual health. What the heck is he thinking?
2006-06-15 02:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by purrlywhites 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋