i'm a quiet person. but people mistake me as a cold-hearted, mean, and arrogant girl. i'm not really like that. i'm actually quite nice. i just want to know what most people think about the reserved. what is the first thing that pops in mind? do you stay away from them? and why do you think or act so?
2006-06-14 18:32:11 · 12 answers · asked by anak sendu 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Suppose a person u don't know very well comes up to you for small talk and you don't seem very involved or receptive they would probably feel you are stand offish and cold but you actually may be a very nice person.its just your nature that you don't open up easily.but all people are not very understanding and they may be judgemental initially till they come to know you better.but even that takes time with you doesn't it?you probably would have undergone a great deal of trauma and rejection by then.
what you must understand is treat others like you want to be treated.if you are warm,friendly and caring(u dont have to talk much!) the same will come to you.no one as you have experienced likes to feel rejected.
you should really try to be more demonstrative bcoz you are a nice person and u deserve to be treated better.all the world craves for some warmth and love.
2006-06-15 04:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by eagercurio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself have been pretty quiet my whole life around those I don't know very well so I can do a pretty good job of empathizing with those who are also quiet and if I'm around them for any length of time I'll try to pick up on any clues they send to help determine why they're being quiet. Is it because they just need time or are they stuck up? Then I will know how to relate to the person.
2006-06-14 18:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by blueEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot goes through their head. They tend to be very intellegent but lack some of the social skills needed and/or have some insecurity issues and it's easier to sit back on the side lines than to play up at the front line. Quiet ones are very observant...though not outspoken. Some are awesome with talking to themselves about what they would say (hands up here!) but end up not saying what they wished they should have.
Some tend to think others see them as snobs, arrogant or just are so into themselves they don't give a rats *** about anybody else. But that's so not true. (though I tend to enjoy animals more than people at times! (just being honest!)
I don't stay away from them....How can I .....I'm one of them.
I'm more outgoing with typing up a storm....but face to face I'm more likely to be a fly on the wall and just throwup on the wallpaper! Besides for the barfin' on the wallpaper (cause that's what flies do................was I even remotely close to explaining a little about how you feel or are.....or am I just referring to myself and how I am.
Take care smarty!
smileyCat : )
2006-06-14 18:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by SmileyCat : ) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think reserved and quiet people are just shy. It has been my experience that most people take a while to warm up. Anyone who prejudges then are too quick to label. I believe most people are naturally designed to see the bad, catergorize and label instead of looking for the good.
2006-06-18 09:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by lady_glock619 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a quiet person too, and people always seem to say i am mean. They just dont understand us, we are the type that really thinks before they speak and only really talks when it is important.
2006-06-14 18:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by this guy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your post sounds more like passive-aggressive, instead of reserved and quiet. People who like to control other people, situations, and conditions have a tendency of being "quiet bullies." Unfortunately, for the people who live with "quiet bullies," there is not much room for error, no tolerance for human frailty, and absolute control over conversation, communication, ideas, and opinions.
Quiet and reserved people are not controllers, as your post "sounds," and I have no problem with that type of personality. Those folks are usually great listeners who are open to others' opinions, and they watch closely to behavior, and are quiet keen in their surroundings.
"Quiet bullies" are dangerous people and are caustic to relationships because they have no room in their personalities for others. I would say this more closely resembles the controlling, demanding, intolerant "bully" type of behavior---only, you may be a bully in a whisper.
2006-06-15 04:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
they are 'seen' as being vulnerable or by some ability 'no longer setting up in' as though a level of Autism is recent, yet such judgementalism is unintelligent and many times particularly incorrect. there is massive survival benefit on your genes in no longer continually having your physique flooded by rigidity hormones from the combat or flight reaction.
2016-12-08 09:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
reserved people are often intelligent people. i think the reason people are afraid to get close to reserved people is because they dont make their personality known to the public and most people fear rejection of some sort.
2006-06-14 18:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think they are heavy thinkers and a bit shy and insecure, someone I would like to get to know. But if they are too quiet, and too reserved, I tend to think they are not quite right, mentally!
2006-06-15 21:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
They are usually the type of people I am drawn to. They aren't always so good with Small talk but, are good to talk to on deeper subjects.
2006-06-14 18:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by PatChat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋