My daughter just named her 3 month old baby Noodles--I am very upset, she is bipolar, what should I do?

Question

FIRST name and I don't like it much.

She thinks it's cute and calls it Noodie.

Answer 1

Honestly, I think Noodles is cuter than "it"--like you are calling the baby!

Answer 2

Ok maybe she was hitting her maniac state when she came up with that one.
If you are upset you should sit down and have a serious conversation about the name of the child. Legal name or not. The child can be called by a different name by you if that is what you choose to do. If it is an embarrasment to introduce your grandchild to your friends as "Noodles" then I would go with the middle name or think of a cute nickname of your own. When the child gets into school it could razzle a few embarrassing moments for poor "Noodie".
Boy or girl this is a silly and cute name. I actually like it, but I would never choose to name my child that because MY mom would kill me!

Answer 3

How would you feel if after giving birth to your daughter if your mother told everyone in the world how ridiculous the name you chose for her was. You'd be pretty hurt considering she was your daughter, and you obviously liked the name or you wouldn't have chosen it.

Now picture your daughter. She clearly likes the name Noodles, (at least its kind of a cute name) and the word probably has many positive connotations in your daughter's life. If you could overlook your grandchild's unusual name, and simply love him/her, I'm sure the word noodles will soon bring you pleasant memories of your grandchild.

If you truly CAN NOT come to terms with the name, give him/her a Mom-approved nickname. I know from personal experience in my own family that if a grandmother calls the grandchild by a nickname the mother dislikes/doesn't approve of it only makes things harder for everyone later. (this is exactly what happened to my cousin. Her mother named her Cheresa, her grandmother disliked the name and called her Sara. Problem being everyone in the family usually calls her Sara out of habit. This REALLLLLLLY pisses her mother off, to a point where she won't let Cheresa be called Sara by anyone in her presence. Clearly not a good situation, and you are dangerously close to doing the same thing!)

After reading the other responses I was disgusted with the lack of foresight shown by other responders. By pursuing legal action you will surely cause a rift not only between yourself and your daughter, but also between yourself and your daughter's child(ren), aka Noodle. Unless you want to find yourself a lonely old lady, get used to your daughter's choice of names! Your mother did!

And, think of the child's future. Perhaps they will want to stand out, and will appreciate the name Noodle. However, if they take a more serious stance on life, they can change it when they are 18, and only if s/he wants to.

On a final note, teasing almost always occurs between children. Just be glad that if your grandchild gets picked on it will be over something as trivial as a name. And honestly, what's in a name?

And who knows, with so many unusual names floating around it may be the Jane's and John's, and other children with "normal" names that get made fun of!

Answer 4

Is it a first or middle name? If it is a first name, unless you have legal custoday of the baby there is nothing you can do. But you could sit your daughter down and talk to her about what the poor child will go through as it gets older. Teasing, name calling, etc. And hope she will change it. Or call the baby by the middle name, or a nick name that is much better then Noodles and hope it sticks. Good luck.

Answer 5

I think the name Noodles doesn't sound like a name. A Holly wood actress I don't exactly remember her name had named her child Apple, Now she has realised that the name is embarrassing for the child. She wants to change it now. I hope your daughter understands that on time. Tell her it's not OK to keep such name. Her child will be teased by her friends and whoever will ask her the name will laugh at her. You can tell her to keep that name as her nick name. Sorry to tell you, but legally you can't do anything. You can talk to her and make her understand.

Answer 6

Assuming your daughter is an adult and isn't under your guardianship, I don't see that you CAN do anything. What does her husband/boyfriend say about it? Just think...when she grows up (if you live in California) her baby can play with Apple and Moses Martin, Shiloh Jolie-Pitt, and Finneus Roberts. OK...sorry to make light of a situation that's bothering you. Is your daughter taking meds for her disorder? If so, maybe after she takes them, in a moment of clarity, you could sit and discuss with her why that's sort of an inappropriate name. It's not like she named the baby j@ck@ss or d!ckhead, but the baby WILL be picked on ruthlessly by kids.

Answer 7

Ask her if she could give the daughter a more serious name, and reserve the name of noodles for an affectionate nickname. If your daughter refuses, I would be tempted to take a look at her parenting skills in general, and see if she is actually a safe parent for your grandchild. Maybe this is a sign of other disturbing parenting habits.
Good luck!

Answer 8

"Noodles" huh..... well it could be worse, Frank Zappa named his daughter "Moon Unit" It wouldn't be so bad if the baby was a boy, but a girl named "Noodles" I'm not sure I could put up with that, but remember the words of The Bard, "What's in a name"? You can always call her Sally or Megan or something else banal when she gets old enough to understand how weird "Noodles" is.

Answer 9

Either learn to like Noodles or come up with a really cool nick name. Why did it take 3 months to give this baby a name?

Answer 10

oh dear...are you serious? Well, I guess you could get some treatment for your daughter, lithium or something, then when she's doing better, try to talk her into a name change.
Let her know you don't approve of the name, and remind her that kids will probably make fun of such an unusual name.
Also, if that's the first name, she could switch it around so it's the middle name, that wouldn't be so bad i suppose.
Just curious though, is it a boy or a girl?

Answer 11

Just because you're bipolar doesn't mean you cannot think rationally and pick the name you like for your child. If she wanted to name her baby Noodles than that is her choice, you cannot do anything about that. If she named her almond, or any other strange name you couldn't do anything about it because the baby isn't yours its your daughters.