2006-06-14 18:14:09 · 11 answers · asked by Eldha'sfather 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sigh. I have the mirror image of your problem. I enjoy sex when I get tied up & gagged but my husband doesn't like it too often.
Here's what we did, if any of this helps you:
1) He goes along with it a lot, because sex is sex, and he loves me and it's all good. But it's not enough for me that he "goes along with it", I don't want to be humored or mollified, I want him to enjoy it, too, which he does to an extent, he's just not as into it as I am.
2) He indulges my kinky li'l fantasies, and I indulge his. Some nights I make all about him. Marriage is the art of compromise, and we both knew that, and we're good with that.
I have a "kink" which is different than a "fetish". A Kink means it spices up and adds excitement to sex. A true fetish is when you can't get aroused at all without that. Find out which is true for your wife. If she absolutely can't get aroused any other way, maybe seeing a sex therapist or marriage counselor is a good idea. But as always, the key is communication- talk to HER, not a bunch of strangers on Yahoo. Just don't make her feel like a freak.
2006-06-15 03:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that this repartie needs to change. She may be a little mixed up sexually to do stuff like that. It isn't normal to do the domination thing. It is probably an indication that something else is wrong within her. But love her and tell her how beautiful she is to you.
You might need professional help, amigo.
2006-06-15 02:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with her, you have a right to feel respected in the relationship. Suggest other things that you could do together that you both like. Seems that your wife is seeking some power over you is it because she lacks it in other areas of your relationship? discuss and explore and resolve
2006-06-15 02:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of a healthy relationship is respect for your partner's limits. Tell her you don't really like it to happen every time you have sex, suggest something new you both feel comfortable with.
2006-06-15 01:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to her that u dont like it. and if she is turned off by the idea. well then she is disrespecting ur feelings. find a new wife u can make love to instead of a freaky one . good freak sex is kool once in awhile but i prefer making love once in awhile as well
2006-06-15 07:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by ford_lovergirl_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD NEVER ACT LIKE SOMEONE YOUR NOT SIT DOWN AND TALK WITH YOUR WIFE AND TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT AND TRY AND FIND OTHER WAYS YOU BOTH LIKE AND ENJOY IM SURE THERE IS MORE WAYS YOU BOTH WOULD ENJOY BUT IF YOU DONT TALK ABOUT IT THEN IT WILL NEVER CHANGE YOU HAVE TO BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ASKED ITS NOT NORMAL AND IF SHE CARES FOR YOU YOU WILL TRY NEW WAYS
2006-06-15 02:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by samm5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men should be tied and gagged! Really just tell her you want to do it your way too so trade off! mmmmm fun!
2006-06-15 01:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh im sure she enjoys it but she just likes it better that way, do the same to her see if you like it better
2006-06-15 01:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth.
2006-06-15 01:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quiet... you have a gag in your mouth
2006-06-15 01:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋