can a person's character get changed?

Question

i think one's character is born and not easy to get changed.However,bad character will strongly effect life and carrer.

Answer 1

I highly recommend the book "How could you do that?! The Abdication of Character, Courage and Conscience" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger.

"This book illustrates Dr. Laura's philosophy of personal responsibility through her sometimes heated, always stimulating moral duologue's with callers about everyday ethical dilemmas. Here is a work that can make a genuine difference in the quality of our own lives and the lives of those we love" (Publisher's statement).

Answer 2

I think you're confusing character with basic personality
traits-the latter you are born with, but character developes
over time both thru experience and environment. This is why it's so very important to give the absolute best we can to children in the earliest years. Many experts believe
that total character development is acheived by around age 12-for the good or bad. I personally believe that while
this may be true-it is not written in stone. If a person takes a hard honest look and doesn't like what is there-they do have the ability to change it. Like anything worthwhile, change is difficult but never completely impossible. That's what free will is all about.

Answer 3

Becky....character is NOT born...it is developed. When you are born into a family you are around certain character traits, these mold your personality. This is where we get the sayings "like father, like son" or "like mother, like daughter" etc. When character traits are inadvertently developed via a family unit they can mistakenly be thought hereditary. Character is not a gene that is passed along through family links; it is a set pattern of development that deliberately or inadvertently sets the trend of a childs life through the family, parents, social set and friends of the child.

Character CAN be changed and re-molded into a different pattern and trend. Usually this happens via self-help or a personal vendetta/will of the child/young adult to change. Sometimes the person will have to go back and "undo" damages or traits that were learned while young.

If you are unhappy with your character, or something about your character, trends, habits, etc then I would strongly encourage you to seek change. There is nothing wrong with seeking to change. Also...IT IS NO INSULT to your parents, or a “slam" to their personal style of parenting if you desire this change. Remember your parents had parents too...they learned habits too....we are all in the same boat here. We work with what we are given, change and toss out what we don’t want and move on.

Get the book on tape set....Re-Inventing Yourself, Steve Chandler. I HIGHLY recommend this series, it changed my whole out look on life, excellent.

You are right...bad character DOES effect your life and career...but as you get older the "habits" become a choice...choices CAN change, character CAN change.

Good luck Becky...be wise.

Answer 4

By whatever sources,you try to change your inborn characters,some time they jump out and spoil your status which you have got after attempts to be a royal,good charactered person.

Answer 5

I think so, yes. I think our Nature and maybe our heart are inborn, but I think Character is built and can be changed. Character can be diminished by greed and desire and Character can be built up by any number of things (kindness, respect, beauty, etc.) but it is something we control.

Answer 6

You will change your character for the one you really love.