My girlfriend always thinks she's right about everything. I can never win with her. How do I get her to realize that sometimes she isn't right?
2006-06-14 17:15:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's not that I'm trying to be right. It's just that she's always telling me what to do, how to do it, and if I have any kind of opinion about anything, it's always wrong.
2006-06-14 17:23:46 · update #1
never said i was trying to force her to do anything
2006-06-15 07:26:44 · update #2
I think just flat out tell her that sometimes she isnt right. a good relationship is based on honesty. But if you're not too comfortable with her yet, try to give it some time maybe. or just tell it to her gently or give her hints. or try saying it when you guys arent having a fight/argument. That should work.
2006-06-14 17:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by fancylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question. I think she's just afraid to be wrong, sometimes people have trouble admitting that. Theres not much you can really do, but I have a few friends like this and sometimes I just let them think they won and deep down I know I am right so why waste my time arguing over it? Nothing is going to change so I just let it go. Once I have a way to prove I was right I rub it all in there face!! hehe! Good luck.!!
2006-06-15 00:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by mccamel1666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to "force" her to see her faults? This sounds like you believe that what you think is the right way and since she may think differently you are going to show her how wrong she is. You sound just like the person you are complaining about.
Dating is a way to get to know someone before you decide to make a life with that person. This is the time when you will decide if you are compatible. You need to make this decision based on who they are and not who you want them to be. You can't make her change the way she is. It will be resented just like you would resent her trying to change you.
2006-06-15 11:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We know, but easily forget, that many beliefs are emotionally driven, not rationally driven. And yet, when conflict arises over differences of opinion, we tend to want to engage it on the level of reason. Brain studies show that when a person who expresses a position on something and gives their reason but has that reason effectively countered by someone else, the first result is not for the person to reconsider their position. Instead, the persons brain searches for other reasons to support their position.
The short answer then is that you can never prove to her that you are right, or that she is wrong, or even has faults.
So you have to simply be a man and be prepared to act - even if you want to act in a way that is contrary to how she would have you act.
2006-06-15 00:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by ***** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...the Mr. and Mrs. Right struggle...sounds like the mirrors turned towards you...stop trying to be right. Just let her be right, and when she sees that she's full of it, she may stop. It's a painful way of learning, but effective.
2006-06-15 00:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by magnamamma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her do anything... She just needs to grow up in time she will become humble and realize her faults but it will take something happening dramatically in her life to bring her to her senses....
2006-06-15 00:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Brookey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We dislike people because we see our faults in them but don't recognize them as our own. Let her talk about people she doesn't like and why she doesn't like them. The light bulb just may come on.
2006-06-15 02:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by DramaGuy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her think she's right. It will keep the peace.
2006-06-15 00:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋