Gained alot of weight with having our son. My husband says he loves me but doesn't want to have sex with me.

Question

What do you think?

Answer 1

you should have a serious talk with your husband and I may be worng but it sounds like ur a tad bit uncomfortable with your weight also ..try working out...eating healthier..dressing sexier for him...when you get confidence it will show and affect the way others look @ you..especially ur hubby...get 'em gurl!

Answer 2

I am sort of in the same situation, i have a 7mth old and can't loose the baby weight. But my hubby still tells me i'm beautiful and I turn him on still. Ur husband should love u no matter what. I think that 2 loose the weight u have to want it 4 urself not jus 2 make him happy. He should be honored that u went thru all that pain to bring HIS child in the world.... Maybe once u loose the weight withhold sex from him 4 a while.. and be like oh remember when my body wasn't good enough?!? haha that'll teach him.

Answer 3

Talk to your husband and ask him why he does not want to have sex with you... You also might want to start dieting and exercising to try and lose some weight... Men are visual creatures. Would he be interested in exercising or walking with you? Try having sex in the dark lol maybe he would be open to this. He may very well love you but for some reason just does not want sex right now. How long has it been since you had the baby? Is he at his ideal weight?

Answer 4

I think you need to have a serious talk with him. I'm assuming that this is hard on you physically and emotionally. He is being a real jerk by acting this way. If he won't listen to you, you might want to look into counseling. Pregnancy weight is normal; some just gain more than others. If you're uncomfortable with the extra weight, work on slimming down a bit. But do it for YOU. As for him, try to work things out as I suggested. If he continues to behave in this way, there will be harder decisions to be made.

Answer 5

I do so hate it when men pull this crap on their women. You carried and gave birth to his child and suddenly your body isn't what it used to be? GO FIGURE!! I firmly believe mama's need to teach their baby boys the AFTER effects of the birds and the bees as well. As everyone else has told you thusfar, he's being more than insensitive, but honey, ya can't teach horse sense to a jacka$$. I have always heard the best revenge towards those who have a problem with your appearance is looking good. Take care of yourself for YOU. It would be interesting to see what his answer to "why wasn't I loveable enough" is once you are at a point where he "wants to have sex with you again".

Answer 6

Does he say he doesnt want to have sex with you or you just think this. Maybe you just feel that way that is normal after having a Baby. Everything will be fine Dont worry over this..OK you will lose the weight...Dont worry..

Answer 7

i do hope you have confronted him with the pain this is causing you! did you marry my ex-husband? in my case my ex was blaming the lack of "want" on my weight after our daughter was born... and i did EVERYTHING i could to make him happy. i lost all of the weight and then some... but things didn't change. then one afternoon one of our son's came to me with nude photos of men. and i almost saw my entire life flash before my eyes... all of the lies, the betrayal...all of the hurt... the problem wasn't my weight, the color of my eyes, the length of my hair, the amount of money i made... HE LIKED MEN... and there is NO WAY i could fill that order. i just want you to observe EVERYTHING very closely... men are strange creatures that thrive off of sex. they would attempt to have sex with a hole in the side of a barn. it's not about you, SOMETHING is up with him. NO MAN is worth changing yourself for... only alter your own appearance if that is what YOU want.

Answer 8

If you're married then you probably don't have much sex anyways! Now that you're I) that justs takes away all the drive. Lose some lb's and your hubby will think of you as a new women and you'll do it like rabbits. You Can Do It!!!

Answer 9

sad to think a so called man would do this to his wife after all you had a child i am a man a real man would never do his wife like that i am divorced and i would have more feeling for a dog that he has toward you in my opion loose so weight you are the same woman he married before you had the baby and leard from this he isnt gods gift to women in my opion good luck and god bless .?

Answer 10

I think you need to have an open and honest conversation about whats going on. Best to talk about it right away then let it become a big problem in your marriage.