they say if u luv some1, let them go.If its meant to be they will come back. My man of 3 yrs. dumped me.I luv him, he says he luvs me,however he only wants to be my friend.If its not me in his life, he wants no other.We still talk, hang out and do things as if we were still together.I dont want no other but him...think i am stupid 4 waitin 4 him... so confused. give me some advice please
2006-06-14 17:03:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if he loves you and doesn't want anyother why did he leave you???
2006-06-14 17:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by baby.c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are now deeply hurt because you lost the love of someone you truly love. Heartaches and tears keep you company and this is normal. One who loves truly should always take the risk of having heartaches and flowing tears along the way.However, if you unceasingly cry and feel hurt, you may do yourself more harm by having restless nights and that feeling of depression. This is something that you should stay away from if only for you to stay healthy despite the hurting.
You should know his real reasons for breaking up with you and they should be valid. Otherwise, defend yourself and explain what should be explained which may possibly lead to his understanding and consideration of reconciliation with you.
However, if he really wants you to be just a friend, and you will know that after you have a heart to heart talk with him, accept his decision gracefully. Believe in your heart that the hurting will soon be over and that you will find the right man for you with the help of Destiny. Let Destiny decide for you because Destiny works best. I'm sure, if you and your ex-boyfriend are really meant for each other, things will happen soon that will make him go back to your arms. If you are not, Destiny will bring you, for all you know, the man you truly deserve. Believe in Destiny and you will always find the way. Believe in Destiny and your heart will never go wrong.
2006-06-14 17:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the best thing you could is wait. Waiting is everything and it brings all the hearthaches and pain that you imagine. This may not apply to everyone, but if it is the person you want to be with forever, then why not?
My personal experience was that my guy friend, which I had met online, was with a girl back at California (I'm in Florida) for already 2 years, in the year of 2004. He then was let go by this girl. As she left him for another man, he went through a major depression. I soon came in, and met wth everyone, especially him. He intrigued me and supported me, when he was going through his own emotional ways.
Finally...after 2 years, I'm with him, and been in a relationship for the past 6 months. We both love and trust each other, and though I'm normally plagued with dreams of us tearing apart and that it was never meant to be, we have strong feelings for each other and I just can't get enough of him. He's done mistakes, and I have some faults in the lives around me, but he is still supportive. We could see each other living together, being with each other for the longest of times...
"If you wait...when there is patience, which is the key to everything...you never know what will be at the end of the road."
So I believe that you wait, and see what will come.
Not sure if this helps, but I just wanted to say go ahead and wait. You aren't stupid when you feel so strongly of someone to wait for them. Never say you are stupid...
2006-06-14 17:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by endlessly_waiting_in_the_rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is one of the most wonderful yet painful things people experience. I do believe the "if you love someone, let them go, it's it meant to be they will come back". Sometimes life circumstances make it impossible for two people who love one another immensely to be together. Leaving someone we love doesn't always mean we do not love it, sometimes we merely can't be with them at that time. Makes little to no sense, I know.
If the two of you are still seeing only each other (even as friends), I wouldn't give up on him just yet. He hasn't gone out looking for nor found someone else. Someone else asked a question on here a little while ago about needing "space". Closeness often scares people. Perhaps this is one of those times.
Only you can make the determination of how long you are willing to wait. You asked it is worth it? I do believe it is. "Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." I can't imagine living my life having never known love for another person.
2006-06-14 17:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is definitely worth it, and trust me, I've been through the heartaches and the tears but if a person does not give love a chance, they will never know if it is meant to last. Life is a gamble and so is love, hopefully you wouldn't give up on life, so don't give up on love. As for your man, either he has met someone else, or he is afraid of where this could lead. You are NOT stupid for waiting, but I wouldn't close the door on other opportunities to meet someone else. Just don't let him string you along like a puppet, you deserve better than that.
2006-06-14 17:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truely loved you he wouldn't want to be friends hun. This guy just enjoys the friendship or maybe he is not mature enough yet for a serious realtionship, either way, I would not wait for him to become a boyfriend. I would just enjoy the friendship and leave it at that because if you expect this to go farther you'll only end up broken hearted!! When you do find the right guy, it will be woth all the heartache and tears!! Good luck.
2006-06-14 17:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by mccamel1666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is powerful. But every thing love brings is worth it. If you love him and your heartachs for him then let it take its tole. He will come around. I know now he says he wants you as a friend. just let life go do your things don't every stop loving him and you will see that you two will be together. Its just right now its not the right time. I have been with my fiance for 6years. I went over seas for a year with the coast guard and she said that she told me the same thing. We still talk and I still buy things for her and the normal things. But I find myself drifting off and all I can do is think about her. Like you my heart beats and it hurts but I don't stop loving. I know she is the one the thing that keeps me going is her. There is no other. I just let god and life take its turn. So just don't stop loving and listen to your heart cause you know thats true. Your not stupid for waiting for him. But do your normal things you know. go out, have fun hang out with friends. Things happen for a reason.
2006-06-14 17:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by cuban_dudeca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-22 07:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r not stupid for waiting! some times u have to take a break to make sure that u are with the right one and vise versa. it is better to take this time now, than wait until you are committed and find out that u made a mistake. some times u need to slow down, and this will show both of you that each other are worth the wait, no matter what!
2006-06-14 17:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by thilitha_tipton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being friends. If you are unable to be friends with no other expectations in the relationship, you need to let him know that and maybe take a step back. There is nothing wrong with feelings, but you need to learn to respond appropriately to those feelings (a life-long challenge for everyone).
2006-06-14 17:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by karinlovespooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! you cant find true love if you cant experience hurt and pain. One can undergo hurt to orient itself to the harsh and the most of trying times in a relationship. To enable a good relationship and for maintenance. Love which doesnt go in hurt or pain will be doomed to fail since it havent tested for any mistakes and flaws in a relationship!
2006-06-14 17:12:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋