im getting married very soon and i want to know how i can make it last and get better every day?

Answer 1

don't have too much sex in the beginning, i did and 3 yrs later my husband is like, i took the mask off cause he says we don't do it as much now, do it too much, and he'll expect it to be that way everyday, in moderation

Answer 2

I suggest that you both maintain and keep your own lives. That way you both have something to talk about at the end of the day. Still do things together but have some outside interests. My Ex and I did everything together and we both quit doing the things that we liked but the other didn't like. That left us with very little to talk about or do. We fell into a rut and that is the worst thing that can happen. When a couple becomes bored with each other, bad things happen.
My parents had very separate lives and they lasted till Dad died. Dad fished and Mom played tennis. When they were together they read and watched TV but they still talked and had a good time together.

A little advise from the divorce files also. NEVER get joint credit cards. The first reason is that if one person's credit is messed up or gets messed up, it will bring down the other person's credit. One of you will need good credit if you ever want to buy a house or a car or anything else. The second reason is if you ever get divorced, one person can screw up the others life by getting a big cash advance. That's what my Ex did to me.

Answer 3

Just a few suggestions...

1) Be willing to fight with each other. Marriages without arguments are marriages without passion, and the lack of arguments doesn't mean there's no conflict, it just means there is no communication. ...and be willing to laugh at yourself too, for nothing makes us quite so foolish as the heady combination of anger and love.

2) Accept that your spouse will change over time. Their body will change, their likes/dislikes will change, and even their beliefs/dreams may change. Be ready to accept those changes, be willing to learn new things about your spouse and the world, be flexible, be compassionate, and be willing to change your own ways to compliment theirs.

3) Express your love verbally AND physically. At least once a week, tell them just what it is you love about them, and remember that sensuality should always be part of a marriage...massages, foreplay, communal baths, body paints, naked cooking, styling each other's hair, cuddling, whatever it takes to make your physical connection not just a sexual one.

4) Respect your spouse's need for privacy and alone time, and ask that they respect yours too. It's great to have activities/hobbies you do together, but most people require some physical/psychological space too, and so it's good to have a hobby or a place you visit that is basically just yours.

5) When it comes to the holidays, someone's toes are always going to be stepped on. Each family has its own traditions and expectations, and you are both bringing your parents' ways into your marriage, and some things will be lost and others will have to be changed, and for the first few years, you may feel frustrated because things aren't the way they used to be...so remember to invent your own traditions, things you know you will always be able to do with one another/any children you may have.

Answer 4

No matter what keep the lines of communication open. Stop and listen to what the other is saying. Don't always go into a conversation with a prearranged speech ready to blast the other without listening to the other side of the story. Be willing to compromise on what you want. This isn't Burger King you don't always have it your way. Think of each others feelings.

Answer 5

OK with my relationship we are going on 8 yrs I'm 23 and hes 24 we have 4 kids and the trick is ALWAYS I MEAN ALWAYS go out with each other NEVER go out with out your partner always take him with you . you have to learn how to enjoy each other we go everywhere together hes like my best friend and also tease him don't give him head every time he ask don't give him anal sex only do that on very special occasions i mean very special occasion but other than that that's how Ive made it work and as for trust thats a must and always pick a fight with him cause everyone loves to make up lol

Answer 6

FIRST OF ALL, CONGRATULATIONS! YOU'VE ASKED A VERY GOOD QUESTION. MORE PEOPLE SHOULD ASK IT. WONDER, THINK, AND THEN JUMP IN. AFTER 30 YEARS OF HAPPY MARRAIGE I FOUND THAT COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION IS KEY! YOU WILL BE TRIED BY OTHER PEOPLE ON YOUR LOYALTY, BUT STAY THE COURSE. ALWAYS KEEP YOUR SPOUSE AT YOUR SIDE AND ON YOUR MIND. YOU 2 WILL DISCOVER YOUR PATH NO MATTER WHAT ADVICE YOUR GIVEN ANYWAY. YOU'LL TAKE PARTS OF THIS AND A PHRASE FROM THAT ONE BUT, AS TIME AND LOVE PROGRESSES YOU WILL MAKE IT YOUR OWN .IN OTHER WORDS, RELAX, ENJOY THE LIFE YOUR RUNNING AND TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME. BEST WISHES!

Answer 7

Since you are interested enough to ask the question, I would say you are off to a very good start. Marriage takes a lot of time and attention which are the two things we usually don't give it enough of...Good Luck!!

Answer 8

dont fight over the little things... its not worth it... always talk about everything!!! TRUST each other as far as you can. LIVE LAUGH and be honest with yourselves and each other. It seriously pays off in the end. if your husband is truly your best freind then make sure you act like best freinds too. meaning sometimes its good to not act like love sick puppies and just go out and do stuff like you would with friends.. it keeps spice alive.

Answer 9

Just be devoted and loving and be the spouse you need to be every day for many many years and work on the marriage faitfully. Be selfless and giving and be forgiving! Treat your spouse the way you would want to be treated!

Answer 10

always see the humor in your life even when things seem the darkest there is somrthing to laugh about. i have been married for 13 years and it gets better everyday because i refuse to let the pety differences rob me of my joy. we still argue and have our differences but we always choose to laugh about them instead of fighting about them, it just isn't worth the tears. remember that love can truly concure all things if you let it. and always remember why you feel in love with each other to begin with

Answer 11

Follow every step of your marriage vows, be honest, communicate, go on dates- have fun...lots of it! remember life is short, and no one gets out alive anyway. Live one day at a time!